I Know A Lady......

[Jeza]

Who is approaching her 100th birthday. She lives alone but does have carers who come in every 4 hours through the day. She also has family who come every day. This lady knows no one. You tell her who you are, she still doesn't know and when you speak to her again in a couple of minutes you have to start all over again. My question is WOULD you want to live like this? I wouldn't.

[Maydup]

She doesn't have much choice does she Jeza?

[Traci66]

But Jeza you wouldn't know you were living like that, I understand where you're coming from though and I agree, no I wouldn't like to live like that.

[gness]

But what would you do to make things different, Jeza? My mother lives like that and it's certainly not how she would want.

[starone]

I want to live as long as I can. I have made it to 86 and if possible will quite happily go on to 100. O.K. this lady does not know much but I expect she is living in her own little world, where she is quite happy to be and that is all you can expect.

[sherrardk]

Just over two weeks ago I went to see himself in hospital where he was waiting to know if he needed brain surgery. He indicated to man opposite him who had had brain surgery and was in a bad way. Himself said to me 'you know what to do' - fortunately I don't have to, but I would.

[Jeza]

Maybe I should have said I think she should not be really living alone. Before anyone jumps on my back I was not speaking of euthanasia. I think she should be in a nursing home.

[starone]

Sorry didn't finish, I should have said if she was in dreadful pain it would be a different matter altogether.

[Jeza]

But could you sher......really?

[gness]

Would she be any different or happier in a nursing home, Jeza? We kept my mother at home in her own little world until she became unsafe...if she had been safe then her home, with care, would have been preferable.
And for me...euthanasia even better.

[Mamyalynne]

She sounds like she has wonderful care and attention, even though she may not remember it. If that can safely continue, then I think her own home is the place to be.

[Mamyalynne]

I know you asked Sherr and not me , but looking back Jeza - yes and almost wish I had.

[Jeza]

Gness. The lady IMO is unsafe she wanders outside and often falls over. I have spoken to her family when they visit but it appears to be water off a ducks back.

[Jeza]

Mamya. Seeing pain in a loved one is a dreadful experience I know that. You can feel their pain and want to help them out of it. The law says no, yet we take our suffering animals to the vet to be put to sleep. Ain't life a bitch.

[237SJ]

When I bought my first property it was a little flat in a small block. There was an elderly lady who lived downstairs who developed dementia to the point where she was a danger to herself and everyone else in the block. At that point, she was hoiked off to a care home. She didn`t appear unhappy though. Then again, her dementia was in it`s early stages.