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help with sympathy card
Does anyone know of a good verse, poem ,story or saying for me to include in a sympathy card for a friend who just delivered a stillborn baby it is her first child and took a long time for them to get pregnant. I am usually so good at expressing my feelings. but I can't find the words to express my sorrow and could use a little help. Any help greatly appreciated. Thanks
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.here's some info on a book that might help http://www.npr.org/features/feature.php?wfId=1024447
also if you search on "loss of a child" there are quite a few support organisations and websites that might help you to find something.
If you and they are religious then telling them that they and the baby are in your thoughts and prayers might be comforting or something like "we are so sorry for your loss and are thinking of you." together with an offer of help and support
Unfair.
But the big thing for them is that you are still there once the natural mourning period goes away for OTHER people. People will eventually disappear as time goes by.
Your support should continue after this time. This will never go away for them, so your care will say so much more than any words on a card.
I totally agree with you Birchy. One of my oldest & dearest friends had three beautiful children, but sadly they all died of syndromes that affected the nervous system, at the ages of 9yrs, 14yrs & 15yrs. Her husband could't cope with all the grief & left her, so now she is completely on her own, with no prospect of ever seeing them marry or have Grandchildren of her own. Without our support, I don't think my friend would be around either. So, just being there for her will be a great help.
This is really sad and the same thing happened to my sister, I know through her experience that many 'friends' didn't know what to say or do so did nothing for fear of upsetting her. She said she would rather they said something trite than nothing at all as she felt very alone at this time. Just make sure you are there for them in the future as I don't think the lost feeling ever goes away. I always remember my niece's birthday and give my sister flowers on the day also.