how...

[lynneylou]

do you learn to love yourself? does anyone trully find this easy to do?

[soozmac]

accept the fact that everyone is flawed, that it's your flaws which seal the cracks in your personality and make you whole. Laugh at yourself, don't take it too seriously, and listen to your consience.

It's not easy, but who wants to spend their life hating themselves?

Oh, and remember that loving yourself is in itself an ugly trait. Accepting yourself is much better.

[devilwoman]

i find it easy to love my self becos i'm gorgous, lovable huggable funny, truthful and cute.

[jump79]

Oooh my favourite section in the entire AB, "Beauty"... :)

If you don't love yourself, who else will? Its not always easy to love/accept absolutely everything about yourself, after all nobody is perfect and we all have our faults and imperfections, but that's what makes you unique.
Accept yourself as an individual, don't try to be like anyone else as in the end, you can't completely change your personality can you.

[Llamatron]

What if you truly believe that there is nothing to love?

[larkin]

dont know ll. No i don't find it easy - impossible at mo . Just reading stuff on how to change . Are you ok ? All postings today seem a little negative.

[Llamatron]

What can I say, I'm a glass is half empty kinda bloke.
Or a realist.

[Goodsoulette]

I don't believe if you don't love yourself noone else will. My ex loved himself and he never made friends easily. Whereas I dont love myself and I do make loyal friends. I dont like the way I look so in that respect I have little self esteem but I do know I have a good heart and care about the things that matter.

[Hellion]

Poor Lyyneylou you're having a rough week aren't you?
First of all Big Hug because you seem like you need one at the moment!
You don't have to love yourself but it's quite important to like yourself. For example I wish I was more clever, wittier, more energetic, more organised, better wife, better Mum...........the list goes on. BUT there are certain aspects of me that I really like, I'm really loyal (to family, friends employers etc.) I might be a rubbish friend when it comes to thoughtful little gifts but I'm a great friend when you have a major crises and need practical help, I'm really good at emotional support........again the list goes on.

What I'm trying to say is there is probably only a bit of you you don't love at the moment - and your feeling low - have a think about the bits of you you like.......I'm pretty certain you'll find they balance each other out.

We're all flawed - it's what makes the world go round - but accept your flaws and celebrate your 'best' bits it's what makes you YOU.

Have you been to Doc's yet? Has your other half?

I hope you start to feel better about things soon, another big hug from me

XX

[lynneylou]

thankyou hellion, dont know whats the matter with me at mo, although when I sat in dr's surgery yesterday was surrounded by new mums and babies and today my friend came for coffee and told me she's pregnant and during a conversation I just started crying again?????

[Hellion]

Are you pregnant?! Rampaging hormones could explain why you feel so low.

[lynneylou]

started my period yesterday and hubby had a vasectomy 8 yrs ago!!

[Hellion]

Well it still sounds like your 'horrormones' as my nephew calls them (and he's not wrong is he!) may be partly to blame. Perhaps there is a 'regret' that your husbands vasectomy has ended that part of your life? Particularly given your other posts this week I suspect that overall your feeling a lot stressed and a little blue about feeling that 'is this it'.
I'm 48 now and I've certainly had times when I've felt very low about 'is this it' somehow you get over it and another stage of your life begins. Honestly life is not over, it'll be different, but it ain't over 'til it's over!!

Hug XX

[Hellion]

Sorry Lyyney just seen your other post in main section - I guess you do have 'regret' about your husbands vasectomy.

The rest of my post still stands though

[lynneylou]

hellion, you sound so lovely!!x

[Tha-Flash]

Depends what you mean by love yourself... (not supposed to sound rude)

[havinmysay]

do u think u could be goin through ''the change'' my mum is and she is 49 and really emotional

[lynneylou]

hi havinmysay

i have wondered this as my mum finished at 35 and ive just turned 36. today my body temperature has been all over the place, freezing and shivering one minute and hot and cold sweats the next!!!

[arburgirl]

I have had low esteem all my life and I remember vividly things from the playground at infants (not bullying) that make me realise I had low self esteem way back then and nothing has changed since. I married the totally wrong bloke at 23, who only wanted me for my money, I was just an ordinary working girl, not a money bags, but even so he took advantage of what I did have. he was an alcaholic and a compulsive gambler, needless to say I divorced him after 3 years. I dragged myself back from depression only to be diagnosed with breast cancer on my 40th birthday ,and a Damart cataolgue was delivered that morning too, which started my birthday off brilliantly! (not). So now five years later I am minus a boob, wear a great big heavy blob of silicone in my bra, am on loads of tablets for depression, panick attacks etc, and have most definitely entered the menopause. So how on earth are you expected to love yourself ! (not feeling sorry for myself here as I'm a really upbeat person who laughs at everything) Anyway, good luck with trying !

[lynneylou]

Hi, I really dont think I want another baby, I just think its a combination of hormones and reality that our youngest is now thirteen and the last child at home, i think im panicing as to what me and my husband have between us without the children????