I Feel Like I'm On Cloud 9

[WELSHYORKIE]

Some of you, well a lot of you, know my personal circumstances re my recent loss but today I feel as though I am on cloud 9. I hope this is not just a one off and that this feeling can keep going on as it feels wonderful. Last week when the headstone went on Sylvia's grave it was as though the whole world had fallen down on me as though it was the final act. But somehow, today, everything seems so much better. Do you think I may be turning the corner with regard to the grieving process or is it too soon to be thinking that way?

[redcrx]

i dont know, ive never been in such a situation. But i suppose that every day will be a bit different and as such you should make the most of the happy days, fill them with warm thoughts and hope that they can then tide you over when days arent so good x

[redman41]

Whatever makes you feel good about yourself and life WelshYorkie is fine.
We all have to Grieve in different ways and try and come to terms with our sad losses.
Life has to go on and if you can deal with whatever life has to offer in the future then the future is bright.
Your memories of your late dear Wife will not fade and your own Children and Grandchildren are her everlasting legacy for you.
Regards
Redman41

[Sqad]

I agree with redman.....I am in the fortunate position to not be able to grieve....even when my biological mother died....................don't know why?

[Noraq]

Take every day as it comes Welshy....there are no rules and no 'should' or 'should nots'

[WELSHYORKIE]

Redman, thanks for that. I was in MB last night to get flowers for the grave and as I was leaving the car park at Waitrose, You'll Never walk Alone came on the stereo and you came to mind immediately - the title says it all really doesn't it?

[Bobbisox]

WY what a lovely thread if I may say so, your memories of Sylvia will live with you.

[redman41]

Yes very apt that song at times WelshYorkie and especially for you last night after you had bought nice Flowers to place on her Grave.
Maybe one day I will bump into you in Waitrose whilst you are talking to Princess Kate and her Bodyguard !! ;-))

[WELSHYORKIE]

Well, you could hardly miss me in my WJ fleece - 6'2" , grey hair, blue eyes,17 stone built like a brick sh1thouse - no, me not the bloody bodyguard. Anyway, Waitrose flowers are expensive!!

[Bobbisox]

WY see my comment in the funeral thread please

[WELSHYORKIE]

Already have done, darling - no problem. xxxx

[Bobbisox]

;o)

[Carakeel]

Welshyorkie, I'm so glad you are having a good day! Much deserved! Hugs to you! I lost my son to brain cancer three days before his 21st birthday over twenty years ago. I do understand grief so well! Loss of a loved one can sit so deeply that at first we can't imagine it not being at the core of each day. Be assured, you are experiencing the first of many good days to come! They will most probably be interspersed with very sad days, where you might feel very lost and lonely ... but these become fewer as time moves on. I say "most probably" as everyone is different. I hope you get out and about among people as much as possible. So many who have had a recent loss find it a difficult thing to do. We sometimes feel like hiding away, afraid of showing our grief to others. But going out and being among friends and day to day life is so important. Grasp this first happy day! Hold on to it and when you feel a sad day coming, remind yourself of this day and of the fact that your lovely wife would want you to have many more days like this one!
Shortly before his death, my son Kevin told me he wanted me to laugh with him and smile with him even after he is gone. I do that a lot, even after so many years. People who love us don't want us to be sad, so go out and enjoy your cloud 9 day and make it the first of many!! Best wishes xxx

[chrissa1]

I'm so pleased for you WY. The happy memories will always be with you and make you smile. The grieving Has to end because Life has to go on and I think, and this may sound trite but, this maybe the start of the rest of your life.

I'm not there yet because I feel resentment that my OH left me too early and he shouldn't have. He had the chance many times over the past 3 years to stop drinking, but the "evil brew" had him in it's grip. Now, he'll never walk our daughter down the aisle or see his little granddaugher grow up. I miss him but everytime I see the photo on the fridge door in happier times, I smile but mentally shake my fist at him.

You just Be Happy, it's want your wife would have wanted,

[Bobbisox]

chrissa, I have literally filled up seeing your post
gentle hugs...x
Bobbi x

[WELSHYORKIE]

Carakeel, thank you for sharing that with me - gives me great comfort. I will make the most of today and, as you say, when I have a sh1t day, I will think of today.

[WELSHYORKIE]

Chrissa,
This is a big cuddle out of the blue
To let you know i'm thinking of you
And even though I have nothing to say
You know I thought of you today
Julian xxxxxx

[chrissa1]

Thanks Bobbie and Yorkie.

[WELSHYORKIE]

Chrissa, You are welcome. Your OH may not walk your daughter down the aisle or see your granddaughter grow up but you will,do both and he will too, through you.
Keep strong. xx

[Carakeel]

Chrissa, it takes a lot of courage to find your way out of the grief and I know you will miss your OH, despite your anger, which is understandable. You have that courage, I am sure! My dad used to say to me "focus on the positive things in each day and you will never lose your smile". I used to grasp at his words, after my son died. He lost his life because of several local doctors denying him treatment that would have saved his life (according to leading specialists). I still have desperately sad moments and my ratter15 is wonderful at getting me through them. I accept them as a part of my life that will never go away. But most of the time I am a truly happy person again. Finding those little positive things each day was so hard at first, but I soon realised that in fact there were so many of them. It helped me control the anger I had for the doctors who let him down so badly and allowed me to move on to a more positive outlook in life. So, I hope you will be able to do this too and send you loads of hugs. xxx

[chrissa1]

Carakeel thank you. I can understand how your anger must be a million times more acute than mine and my heart goes out to you and Ratter. You must be a very strong and brave lady.
Yorkie, you're right, he will be there with us in spirit. Onwards and upwards as they say.