So lonely,what can I do ?

[tamaris]

I have no family , I am on my own. I have recently retired and and the days are so long. I spend so much time on my own I think I am going crazy some days. I have joined things, but every one seems to have their own lives. I dont come over as miserable as I keep cheerful in the company of others, but I get so down these days as my work was my life.

[maggiebee]

Hi Tamaris, just caught up with your post. Glad you are going to speak to someone about volunteering. Before going for a chat, have a wee think about what sorts of things you like to do. Friend of mine is in a shop at a local hospital so meets loads of people every week. I'm a Samaritan and just love it. 60 volunteers in our branch, many of whom have become close friends. There is also a sense of being there for others, many of whom are lonely and just need a friendly voice to unburden to. Hope you find something you can really get your teeth into. Good luck.

[whiskeryron]

tamaris, what part of the country do you live ?

WR.

[tamaris]

I am in the south. I did wonder about Samaritans, but was unsure wether it would make me more depressed although I am a good listener

[whiskeryron]

My best mate lost his wife at around the same time that I became a widower (2008). I don't get out very much, he on the other hand belongs to a walking group he is 79 & recently through the group he met a lady with similar interests to his own & they have struck up a very strong friendship, so tamaris there's hope for us all.

WR.

[tamaris]

That is so nice x

[maggiebee]

Tamaris, can I assure you that being a Samaritan is far from depressing. We come from all walks of life and are well trained to deal with every type of call. There are many jobs needing done in every branch, so you can choose to be a support listener and work in the background rather than answering phones. We also use e-mails and texting. I am just back from 3 days in Stafford where 46 directors from Scotland, England, Ireland and Wales met to do some training as we are all new to the post. Great cameraderie and not in the least depressing. We worked, ate, drank and laughed together. Give your local branch a ring and have a wee chat with them - think you'll be pleasantly surprised.

[tamaris]

Maggiebee, many thanks for your input, I a pleasantly surprised x

[whiskeryron]

See tamaris, you already have lots of friends on here, I know it's not the same as sitting together with someone but you can correspond with us all at any time It's a great pity that we are not allowed (I think) to exchange email addresses but at the very least this is better than nowt.

Ron ♥

[tamaris]

Bless you x

[tamborine]

how about an allotment? lots of exercise, chat & excess crops to share

[tamaris]

Too much work that for me tambourine x

[vulcan]

U3A is also something you could consider.
http://www.u3a.org.uk/

[jno]

good luck with the talk tomorrow. I expect there's lots of things to do, but it makes sense to look for one you feel really comfortable with.

[starone]

When my husband died I did not know what to do, I was so alone. I decided to do some Open University Courses - not to obtain a degree, but just to learn things. Altogether I did four, not all at once, and passed them all, I'm glad to say. This took me through my first year - i could almost say I became obsessed with them. Now, I go for a walk every morning, even when it is raining and stop and chat to anyone I meet, whether I know them or not. Other people often instigate the chats, so I know there are others who need social stimulation. When I feel the need I know I can come here and someone will always be available to help.

[Maydup]

Good luck with the volunteering.

If you need anymore inspiration for volunteering opportunities have a scroll about on this website and pop in your postcode

http://www.do-it.org.uk/

[naomi24]

Mamya was right when she said things do not come to you - you have to go looking for them - and I'm really pleased you are mustering up the courage to go and look. Remember, life changes, but it changes sooner if we help it along. :o)

[askyourgran]

Good luck tamaris, I've just caught up with this post. I hope you find something to enjoy, and keep on posting here, there's always something to talk about.

[tamaris]

Maidup that is a fab link, there are things on there I would definaely like to help with x

[tamaris]

Thank you all for your help and kindness, all very much appreciated x

[Maydup]

I'm pleased it was useful (I work full time still but keep an eye out for unusual things that might catch my attention) There are often very interesting things on there which are a bit more specialist.

I'd love to hear how you get on.