Not A Question, Just A Rant

[flump1]

Just had the most awful exchange of words with my partner's son ( 21 ) who thinks my health should not stop me working and I should therefor get a job and not be in receipt of benefit. Up until 5 years ago I was working until my health deteriorated to the point I had to give it up. I have various issues not helped by him and his ignorance. Feeling so alone and desperately unhappy right now. Rant over.

[Psybbo]

Sorry flump, 21 year olds think they know everything and are wrong xx

[anneasquith]

awe, poor thing, take no notice. what do they know. is your partner with you ?

[jno]

does your partner have anything to say?

I have never taken the words of 21-year-olds too seriously; they have more prejudices than life experiences.

[Tilly2]

Ignore it, flump. He will learn, in time!

[tonyav]

He needs to hope that he never has to give up work due to ill health.

[pixie373]

I agree, he's unaware at the moment. Clearly all the,authorities agree with you, or you wouldn't be getting benefits. Hopefully, he'll have a think and an apology soon.

[marval]

I am sorry to hear that, don't take it to heart. You know how unwell you are, he has no idea. He doesn't have to walk in your shoes. so to speak.

[ferlew]

Pay him no mind...... what the hell does HE know?

[flump1]

Hi all, my partner stayed quiet throughout and I am in bits. I have had a bad flare of late and all my inflammation levels are high and I am in debilitating pain. I struggle to maintain the house and the lad works part time. My depression is also kicking off and I carry an sos number ( lust in case ) . A few of the things he said were uncalled for , such as people's perception of me . All I am able to do is go to a charity shop once a week to get me out of here and keep me sane. I am feeling utterly useless now.

[kvalidir]

He sounds like an ignorant cretin- and there are ignorant cretins of all ages, I don't think being 21 is any excuse. Just ignore him and try to not let his nastiness affect you.

[tonyav]

Why does he only work part time, flump ?.
And your far from useless, even with your health problems you manage to work in the charity shop once a week, well done you.

[pixie373]

Exactly tony. And why does he only work part-time, flump?

[anneasquith]

flump.....this person has no right to talk to you like he did, I do wonder why your partner did not intervene, but , you need a cup of tea/glass of wine, a long hot bath and try to get to bed. don't be tempted to open discussion with anyone at home tonight. cheeky wee devil . take care anne.

[marval]

Please don't let him get to you, you need to talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling. He should support you.

[Jeza]

My Dad would say "They think they have all the answers , yet they don't even know the questions" Shrug it off flump he is an ignoramus at best and a bastard at worst.

[Old_Geezer]

Was the disagreement about that, or was it something he threw at you in the midst of an ongoing argument ? It seems a strange thing for him to be concerned about otherwise, and I wonder if the reason your partner didn't step in might be because he felt you were both rowing anyway ? Try to put it behind you, folk say unkind things on occasion. If you take everything to heart you only make yourself to feel bad.

[chrissa1]

I don't think much if your partner, flump. He should have backed you up and told his son to keep his nasty thoughts to himself.

[boxtops]

I agree with chrissa - but it's done now. I can understand you feeling upset, but what does he know? and TBH what's it got to do with him, anyway?

[Dee Sa]

we are all on your side flump, I realise you cannot just ignore these hurtful comments, but take his age and ignorance of what you are going through into consideration, one day he will be sorry for what he has now put you through, I hope he soon sees the error of his ways and how upsetting this is for you, benefit is for worthy people like yourself who genuinely qualify to receive it.

[Arksided]

I can't post on a family site what I'd have said to the ignoramus.