My Mum

[mallyh]

my poor mum has been diagnosed with cancer of the lungs and a spread to her adrenal glands it's awful ,she is 90years old ,she also can only speak in a whisper they thought it was due to a build up of fluid on her lung .I don't know what if any treatment she can have .another appointment at the hospital today .as she lives a long way from us my siblings will be taking her .my brother cancelled a holiday he had booked for next week and the doctor told him that was for the best . we are going up at the weekend .mum is taking it well but the rest of us are in bits about it .

[MallyJ]

You have my deepest sympathies. This is a very difficult time...it sounds as if you are a close family...I am sure you will be a great support for each other. Look after yourselves and let others look after you too.

[Sqad]

Patient aged 90 years of age with lung cancer (type not given) and adrenal gland metastasis.........
The prognosis is months rather than years.
The important factor is to give her the best quality of life as possible.
Pain relief if pain is a prominent feature and relief of breathing difficulties by either continuous oxygen therapy and or plural drainage if there is a build up of fluid.

[Sqad]

"pleural".^^^

[queenofmean]

I'm terribly sorry to hear your news Mallyh. I will be thinking of you all. But please remember you aren't alone, we are all here to help you through this difficult time.
Much love to you all
Queenie x

[ummmm]

It doesn't matter about age it's still heartbreaking xxx

[Tilly2]

Sorry to hear your dreadful news, Mallyh. Take care.

[mallyh]

just spoken to my brother ,one lung has totally collapsed they were talking about putting a camera down her throat but we don't want her pulled about as the doctor had a quiet word with brother and it sounds like it won't be long,i said to brother I feel useless here but he said they feel useless been there as there is nothing anyone can do .

[gness]

I'm so sorry, Mally....you've had so much to deal with lately......take care...x

[Tilly2]

That feeling of uselessness is the worst thing because you want to be able to do something to help. It's an awful state to be in.

[Old_Geezer]

Thoughts with you and your family.

[ImLostAgain]

//That feeling of uselessness is the worst thing because you want to be able to do something to help. It's an awful state to be in.//

I have to agree with Tilly2 here. I lost my mum four years ago today aged 92. Granted it wasn't cancer but knowing I was about to lose her was devastating. You seem a loving family so keep her as close as you can (in thoughts as well as physically) for as long as you can. My thoughts are with you.

[mallyh]

thankyou for your kind words xx

[murraymints]

oh dear so sad news, yo must be stressed out by everything..big hugs x

[anneasquith]

Good pain relief and comfortable is what I would wish for. Best wishes.

[mallyh]

my poor daughter can't stop crying ,first losing her nan(dads mum) then her hubby now my mum is so ill, all in the space of 4 months .

[Patsy33]

So very sorry to hear this Mallyh. I hope you can be with your dear Mum at the weekend.xx

[marval]

I am very sorry to hear your news mallyh. I am sure she will be pleased to have you there at the weekend.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all, at this difficult time. xx

[mallyh]

thankyou xx.i will be staying with my mum from Saturday for a while x

[1ozzy]

My feelings go out to you Mallyh.

My dad, who is 87 was diagnosed with lung cancer of some sort last year.

Not sure what sort of cancer but it has taken it's toll. He is not the man he used to be and it is devastating to watch the decline.

Stay strong and support as much as you can, I'm 6 hours drive from my parents place and wish I was closer.

xx all the best and take care of yourself.

[mallyh]

thanks ozzy xx as the doctor told my brother it was best he cancelled his trip it doesn't sound good .x