Blokes and Sex

[Sasha13]

Someone said to me the other day that it's impossible for a women to sleep with a bloke regularly on a 'friends with benefits' basis and not want the relationship to progress into anything. My question to the blokes is this. If a bloke were to sleep with a woman fairly regularly over a long time - we're talking months here - would they find themselves wanting something else or am I right in thinking that blokes can literally take sex for sex's sake, indefinitely. I guess what I'm trying to ask is if a guy was still sleeping with a girl a year or so after they had first slept together is it likely he's come to think of it as more than just sex? Not something that's happened to me by the way, I just wondered!

[Goodsoulette]

From experience, I can tell you that blokes (well one bloke anyway) end up with this wanting to be more. It started with little digs about being used. Then drunken texts about needing proper affection. Friends with benefits is a disasterous territory.

[China Doll]

Yes, women do this.

And yes, over a period of time men do it too.

I don't want to sound like an absolute prude but I will.... when you start taking sex as just a messy exchange of bodily fluids and it never ever touches you, it says more about you than the others around you.

One night stands not withstanding.

[raysparx1]

I would say that if it was just sex the novelty would soon wear off, great at first but then if there isn't any emotional attachment I would soon get fed up with it, lot of difference between sex and making love to somebody you actually have deep feelings for.

[legend758duo]

i think that over tim ein a friends with benefits situation you will have feelings for the person youre sleeping with.
you must have feelings if youre human that is.
though some women are cheap and easy and less emotionally involved than men.

[Sasha13]

What I mean though leg-end, my sweet, is does that work both ways? Do feelings 'automatically' develop for guys as in the same way as girls?

[dot.hawkes]

This question was too complicated for me.

[legend758duo]

sasha i think i answered that.

but if not .

then yes im sure they do for both males and females

[Sasha13]

dot.hawkes - sorry hun, it was a philosophical rambling that can only occur after a large glass of pinio grigio!

legend - yes, I think you did too, I just wanted to clarify. By the way, what makes you narrow down the statement about being cheap and easy and less emotionally involved to women - don't men sometimes do that too?