i'm with bathsheba on the herbs and things, i found them a waste of money. maybe they're worth a go for you ed, as they may help but don't be surprised if they don't. i take an all-in-one menopause thing from boots the chemist which contains all the stuff recommended at this time (calcium, magnesium, etc. etc.) and also an omega 3 thing to help protect my heart and brain (well, what's left of my brain since menopause!!!). i don't take these things to help aleviate the symptoms but just to protect my body now that various things are more likely to happen (although magnesium is said to help with sleeping problems).
unfortunately, it's just a case of toughing it out and waiting for your body to settle down now the hormones have been withdrawn. best of luck, you have my sympathy :)