the best solution I'm afraid is going to be time. At her age the loss is great and you can make a huge difference by just being there to listen and reassure her she's not alone. Don't try and jolly her out of it but be caring and practical - she will feel depressed and low and a little scared. Tufty7, carry on as you are - you're doing great by being such a concerned son or daughter, she will gradually come to terms with her loss. and begin to feel a little better about everything.good luck