Razzle...still confused.
"after a period of separation Mr. Razzle and I usually fcuk the brains out of one another "
But presumably you are still in love with him, so that is, by your definition. making love.
"that we settle down and makes love which may or may not include a sexual component or may or may not end with climax. "
If it has a sexual component then it is making love, but if there is no sexual component then it is not making love or sex.
So I would assume that you can "make love" with no sexual component, stop me if I have missed the point, but 99% of my friends when they say that they have made love, invokes or implies a sexual component,