Trying to be open-minded, but...

[Scarlett]

My best friend is a man of 30. He has no luck with women. He, like all men, needs sex. He isn't getting any and there seems to be no opportunities on the cards. He also likes being single and has no desire to settle down or be in a relationship. In a week he is going away for the weekend, to London. There is no reason for him to go there- he usually likes to go to the beach or somewhere rural. I am pretty sure he is going to get a prostitute. I like to think I am open- minded, but this makes me feel queasy. What would be your thoughts?

[sandyRoe]

He wouldn't need to go to London to get one. He might be going to see a football match.

[gina32]

why does it make you feel "queasy"? if that is what he is doing that is his choice, he is free and single and doesnt need to answer to anyone.

[RATTER15]

What makes you think that, I'm sure he doesn't need to go to London to find a prostitute,Isn't London a major tourist attraction.
I imagine every town or city has prostitutes these days, I maybe wrong.

Prostitutes = dangerous and seedy!!!

[redman41]

If you are close to this Man give him a good seeing to yourself, you might both enjoy the experience ! ;-)))))))

[LoftyLottie]

Redman!!!!

[Davethedog]

I don't believe that prostitution is only available in London, I may be wrong. So why should he come to London for one.

Supposition that is not supported has ruined more relationships/frendships than can be counted. I would suggest that when he leaves for London you wish him the best and mean it.

[redman41]

Hello Lottie ! It was just a thought !! ha ha

[LoftyLottie]

Scarlett, it would be the last thing I would be thinking of if he were my friend. And if that is what he is doing, what would be problem be. Would it make any difference to your friendship?

Just wish him a happy holiday and hope he enjoys himself.

[anneasquith]

its none of your bussiness what he does, hes 30 years old.

[Davethedog]

Scarlett - There is no side to this question but are you jealous? Your concern seems more than pure frendship?

[NOX]

Lots of men pay women for money in lots of ways- some do it outright and procure a lady of the night and pay them cash, some get a girlfirend and suffer endless requests for gifts and boring venutres out if they are high maintenence and some get married and have to have a new kitchen fitted every 3 years
when colours change and it's no longer fashionable ;-)
There is nothing any more seedy or odd in having sex with a prostitute than any other woman and as he's single and not your partner it's really not your concern, but reinterating what the others have said he really doens't need to go to London to find one, they are everywhere and generally don't look at all the way you'd imagine, your neighbour might be one, you'd never ever know.

[tamborine]

he'll be hard pressed to find a beach in London. He could be more into sport/arts/culture; not everyone needs opposite sex, eg Cliff Richard. He could have had a past failed relationship that has left him wary.

[Sqad]

anneasquith/nox

Scarlett....please read the above 2´s threads................they say it all.

[andy-hughes]

I find this assumption on your part to be curious and invasive in equal measure.

It really is nothing to do with you how he spends his time away from you, and you are presuming too much on his friendship to imagine that he is interested in what you think on this occasion.

If you are his best friend, then respect his privacy, and accord him a little more dignity than you are showing by discussing your suspicions with total strangers.

[starone]

It is dangerous mainly because of STD's but I have no doubt he would be knowledgeable enough to practise safe sex, so why worry? If the poor chap can't get it any other way, that's why there are prostitutes, isn't it?

[andy-hughes]

Actually no starbuckbone.

Prostitutes exist to facilitate sexual congress without complications - it's as simple as that.

As Charlie Sheen is reported to have said - "I don't pay them for sex, I pay them leave afterwards ..."

That's what it's all about.

[redcrx]

is this all because the road in St Johns wood flashes in red on your PC?

let the guy live his life and get on with your own.

[starone]

Andy - nitpicker, why don't you leave me to my illusions. :-) ☺

[andy-hughes]

Sorry!!! LOL!

[Scarlett]

Thanks for your answers. Interesting stuff. I think a lot of the answers are exactly what I would say, if I was answering a question on here about someone else. However, I do think that if it was your best friend/brother etc you might be a bit concerned for them. It strikes me as a last resort and I feel sad that that's what he has to do. And- football? No.