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Is it okay to not like PDA's?
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When I am out with my boyfriend in a group of friends, I prefer acting like we are just friends and chat to the rest of the group because I am a very shy, awkward and self concious person, however he says it makes him feel bad about himself as its as if im embarassed to be with him. I understand that and I feel bad about making him feel this way however now he says i have to change or we have to break up. I don't know if i can change as its just the way I am but every time we go out he tells me how annoying I am and i know its because im hurting him but I dont know what to do. Ive explained it doesnt mean i dont like him but he says its embarassing for him and makes him feel bad about himself.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I can't understand why your boyfriend feels that your loack of public affection makes him'feel bad about himself'.
If people don;t feel like kising etc. in public, then fine, i fail to see there is a problem.
If your boyfriend feels he has to demonstrate to all and sundry that you are together by PDA's, then that is down to his insecurity.
If he is threatening you with breaking up unless you change, then let him go ahead.
This man is too controling, and if he has no more repsect for you than to allow for your feelings, he is not the boyfriend for you.
Ditch him, and find someone who is worthy of your time and attention, and who will understand your prefectly reasonable desire to save your affection for your private times.
If people don;t feel like kising etc. in public, then fine, i fail to see there is a problem.
If your boyfriend feels he has to demonstrate to all and sundry that you are together by PDA's, then that is down to his insecurity.
If he is threatening you with breaking up unless you change, then let him go ahead.
This man is too controling, and if he has no more repsect for you than to allow for your feelings, he is not the boyfriend for you.
Ditch him, and find someone who is worthy of your time and attention, and who will understand your prefectly reasonable desire to save your affection for your private times.
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Go for an evening out somewhere well away from your usual circle of friends. Make sure you spend the evening holding his hand over the table, etc, and really looking *at* him when he speaks. Tune everyone else out...........they aren't going to be in the least bit interested in you. You have to realise that any embarrassment you feel won't kill you. Hopefully, you'll start to feel that you can, at least, touch him in public without fear.
Showing your feelings for someone-even if restrained-should be open and natural.
You say you don't want to 'act like that'-which sounds as if you feel you are being phoney by being affectionate with him.
Is he your first BF? if you've had others-how did you behave with them?
He may feel bad because he sees how you act with him as a reflection of your relationship...he may worry that you are not proud to be with him.
You say you don't want to 'act like that'-which sounds as if you feel you are being phoney by being affectionate with him.
Is he your first BF? if you've had others-how did you behave with them?
He may feel bad because he sees how you act with him as a reflection of your relationship...he may worry that you are not proud to be with him.
Surely you could stay by his side more of the time, perhaps link his arm at least when in company. Being able to chat with all the rest of the group doesn't suggest you are shy and awkward. From his point of view he might think that you want the others to think you are single and available and can well understand why he's feeling bad about it.