Cut off

[Purple_Popple]

Why do some friends and even family just spontaneously cut you out of their life without warning or reason ? Make excuses not to see you or to be busy and no matter how much you make the effort to see them or make contact - it is all futile...

[ummmm]

Yes....just move on. Don't waste your time.....

[4getmenot]

i make effort and i feel bad sometimes when i havnt been to see someone for a while but then i think, sod them they know where i live. So if they dont make the effort too i drop them :-)

[brenda]

Selfishness?

[Purple_Popple]

I agree to just move on, but there is just no rhyme or reason to it, especially if you are not even given the chance to 'put right' whatever went wrong - but to go from being best of friends to like they never knew you is totally bizarre...I have seen it happen so many times to different people and I am so glad I am not like that....I believe in given someone the chance to make amends no matter what...but then not everyone is me ....or thinks like i do.

[R1Geezer]

So is this a reaction to some sort of incident or are you unaware of an reasons for this?

[Purple_Popple]

Nooooo R1, nothing has happened, not to me, just a few friends over the weekend and I had a chat about all this and i was surprised how often it has happened to some of them, to just get cut out of someones life....

[Purple_Popple]

It must be awful Sandra, depends how 'thick skinned' we are as individuals I suppose, but it must really hurt...not knowing, just left out....I dont see any reason other than they cant think much of that person to do such a cold thing....

[bednobs]

they don't like you any more, or you said something to upset them

[boxtops]

I've had a few friends where we have grown apart over the years, and keeping in touch doesn't seem viable after a bit. Only one has suddenly stopped getting in touch, but I can't say I mind that much. I won't run after them.

[R1Geezer]

there will be a reason, some people do something that completely alienates someone but with no idea what they did and the alienated person just needs to cut them out.

[Purple_Popple]

That's obvious Bedknobs, but again, 'they dont like you anymore' is such a way out there thing ....you just dont stop liking someone for no reason..

[bednobs]

sorry if you thought my answer was obvious. I also thought the answer was obvious, but didn't know if you did as you had asked the question

[karenmac60]

Talking of friends (sorry to hijack your thread PP) - did you ever sort things out with your friend who visited you at Xmas, Bednobs?

[bednobs]

no, i was a complete coward and didn't say/do anything at all. He lives some way away, so haven't seen him since

[karenmac60]

That's a shame you never got it sorted bednobs, but I can understand - I'd probably have avoided the issue too :)

[boxtops]

sorry, purple, I didn't mean to imply that you were chasing up - I realise you weren't - I know I wouldn't. You give it a try, it's obviously not reciprocated for whatever reason. As they say - nowt so queer as folks.

[albaqwerty]

I haven't seen or spolen to my brother for about 16 years. His wife slammed the door in my face.
(She's an only chilld) He's now 63, I tried to get in touch over the past 4 years but nothing came back. I made the effort. No skin off my nose.