2 year old niece hitting people

[star57]

What should i do?every time she sees me she wants to hit me,so i always tell her i didn't do anything why are you hitting me or like right now i was talking to my mom and my niece came up to hit me,so i told my niece that i was just talking that i wasn't doing anything wrong then my mom started yelling at me saying i was immature that she's only 2 and I'm 25 so am i doing something wrong by letting her know that this beaver is wrong or should i just leave it alone?

[Hopkirk]

Has it Sqad? Smacking is not illegal is it?

[Sqad]

RATTER....stop guessing.

4 boys now with families of their own.........6 grandchildren (I think)

[LoftyLottie]

Sqad. I was trying to say that Welshy's experience doesn't prove a thing by quoting my own experience - I wasn't saying I was right, just that Welshy isn't necessarily righ either.

[Sqad]

Hopkirk ....you may well be correct......but i thought that it was illegal, although I stand to be corrected.

[LoftyLottie]

And Sqad you have said that two of your sons are complete wasters!! ;o)

[Sqad]

Lofty...exactly just my point....two successful outcomes with diametrically opposed methods.

I wasn't saying which was right and which was wrong....but, just...what can we deduce from that?

[Sqad]

lofty...true.....wasters by my standards.....but where on this thread have i denied this?

[WELSHYORKIE]

LL - The lads from down the street were not smacked and, i'm guessing, were not particularly well disciplined by the parents.

I am not suggesting that all 'non-smacked' kids become junkies, drunkards etc but just using the 2 'cases' as examples.
As it happens, neither of my lads smack their children but are very strict and won't put up with bad behaviour.
My lads regularly talk about their upbringing and have no complaints - not even about Sylvias unerring knack of being able to throw a slipper so that it curved around doors - about the way we disciplined them.

[LoftyLottie]

Welshie, well we both agree that neither of us put up with bad behaviour!

:o)

[Sqad]

Lofty...that is hardly the point of the questioner.

[jackthehat]

I've been reading this with interest......but you have all ignored the 'beaver'....

it is clear by reading through previous posts that there seems to be far more to this matter than the simple fact that star57's niece is going through the terrible two's.

star - You need to tell your niece 'firmly' that you will not put up with being smacked, and then, if needs be, *you* need to be the one to leave the room.

[WELSHYORKIE]

I think we can deduce from this, sqad, that both methods can work - I happen to think that todays world is too soft on those who do wrong. Maybe, at 55, i'm just too old fashioned??

[lady-janine]

maybe the answer is not either smacking or reasoning but just setting limits beyond which the child is not allowed to go and sticking to those limits and then making sure the child knows when they have been crossed. i'm not in favour of beating any child but you do have to make sure they know and understand what the boundaries are and that some form or punishment or withdrawal of favours will result if bad behaviour continues.

[Sqad]

Welshy....you have got it in one.

But we will never know, because one method has been "outlawed" ;-)

[B00]

its just a phase...probably.

My now 6 year old went through it at that age, that and biting us. Ignore, it, it soon stops.

[redcrx]

|Star, you need to firmly say no and either sit the child away from you or move away yourself.

as for the weekly smacking debate, the conclusion i have come to is that discipline is what makes the difference. Some parents dont smack but couldnt care less what their child is up to and at the other extreme some will smack the hell out of a child for no reason and again not care what they are doing. Thus leaves children growing up with no sense of what is right or wrong.

[Sqad]

redcrx

<<<some will smack the hell out of a child for no reason>>>

I don't think that anybody has suggested smacking the HELL out of a child.

Typical rhetoric of the anti smacking group.

[jno]

jno jnr was never smacked and has grown up just fine. The idea that violence is a good idea, especially towards a toddler, is abhorrent to both his parents.

star57, it isn't really your job to bring up your niece, but you are entitled to tell her you personally don't wish to be hit, and impose whatever sanction you please - which may involve you refusing to talk to her, or leaving the room.

[WELSHYORKIE]

Lady-J, I am not in favour of beating a child either, just smacking - and yes there is a difference in my opinion.

[redcrx]

sqad, you numpty :), Im not part of the anti-smacking group. I feel it has its place, but what i was saying is its the extremes of smacking and not smacking without caring either way about the kids that causes these examples of unruly children