is there any doctors or nurses on here?

[leanne_1987]

is there any doctors or nurses on here? need to ask a question but really dont want to ask on here

[boxtops]

we had a thread like this the other day, leanne - people not realising that anything you post on the internet is just that - searchable by anyone. However, all they would find is your AB profile, not any of your personal details.

[leanne_1987]

i will post the question onto this post in a second, its following onto my previous question i posted about chlamydia

[Sqad]

I guessed that;-)

[leanne_1987]

soo i was treated for chlamydia which has hopefully worked but the fella who i was with said his came back negative and the lass he was also seeing at the same time as me came back negative which can only mean i have had it for more than 3 and half years off my ex fiance, but we split up while i was pregnant! i'm now so worried that i've passed it onto my child! i feel so guilty and sick when i think about it cant stop crying and feel so ashamed about going to see the nurse tomorrow, whats the chances of my daughter having it? and the implications? will they check her over? i feel like such a bad parent, also i was tested after breaking up with my daughters dad which was negative, i know you can get false negatives which answers that but im so confused, i havent told anyone

[Mamyalynne]

It is totally understandable that you feel as you do, the main thing now is to be practical and that is the first step tomorrow. I am not quite sure of the procedure in young children for testing, but rest assured the professionals will know.
Guilt is part of being a parent and anyone can make a mistake, deep breaths and get this sorted. Good luck.

[boxtops]

Leanne, it can be passed from mother to child at birth - your daughter will probably need tests to check, but it will all be done very sensitively. You are doing absolutely the right thing in getting her checked out now, before she gets any older. So many men and women have no idea that they have chlamydia and it can be serious if untreated - so please don't feel so bad about it, you are putting it right now, and that is the important thing.

[leanne_1987]

thank, i know its a complete mess, do not know how i am going to explain it to the nurse and i know i will ust break down as soon as i get in the room

[ummmm]

Is there a chance your ex is lying?

[leanne_1987]

i know docs and nurses have to keep info confidential but it will be soo hard for them not to udge me

[boxtops]

Leanne - don't worry, the nurses are used to this, you don't need to feel that you will fall apart. Why don't you write it down, just like you have here, and give the nurse the piece of paper? - that way, you won't forget anything, and the nurse will understand why you are there.

[leanne_1987]

its did cross my mind that he is lying saying he came back all clear and trying to pass blame onto me as he and the one he was cheating on me with are now together but its better to be sure

[ummmm]

Leanne...they have seen/heard much much worse. Try not to worry xx

[boxtops]

Leanne - the fact remains that it doesn't matter who said or did what in the past, it's the now that matters - whoever gave it to you, you are making sure that you and your little girl are safe. Hang onto that.

[ummmm]

I would put money on the fact that they are lying.

[Sqad]

The chances that you had chlamydia at the birth of your child would have been negligible and hence would not have affected your daughter.

I can't stop you for feeling a bad mother, but I can reassure you about the absence of cross infection at birth, in your case.

[sandyRoe]

Isn't there a routine check during pregnancy for STD's?

[ummmm]

I thought there was Sandy.

[bednobs]

no

[bednobs]

they check for hiv and hep b i think

[leanne_1987]

not all places give routine std check in pregnancy, i cannot remember having one anyway, but they do check for hiv