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Wasn't sure whether to post this or not... but here goes.
I'm feeling seriously down at the moment. Nothing in particular, lots of things. Just life, really.
I've been feeling stressed recently, I'd say the past week. I just can't seem to shake it, and seem to be losing motivation to do anything or see anyone.
I haven't really spoken to anyone in the past couple of days, and feel a bit like I'm slowly shutting myself off.
My parents have just been to pick the kids up, and although I was supposed to be seeing friends, I just can't face anyone with this miserable face.
I can't find anything to feel even remotely happy about at the moment. There's the impending Christmas, which I am seriously worried about, my sister (obviously) and I'm also supposed to be moving house soon, but I haven't even started to pack. I start a new job at the end of this month, so that's one positive, but the way I feel right now, I could just go to bed and hibernate for a few months.
Does anyone else get like this, this time of year? :-(
I'm feeling seriously down at the moment. Nothing in particular, lots of things. Just life, really.
I've been feeling stressed recently, I'd say the past week. I just can't seem to shake it, and seem to be losing motivation to do anything or see anyone.
I haven't really spoken to anyone in the past couple of days, and feel a bit like I'm slowly shutting myself off.
My parents have just been to pick the kids up, and although I was supposed to be seeing friends, I just can't face anyone with this miserable face.
I can't find anything to feel even remotely happy about at the moment. There's the impending Christmas, which I am seriously worried about, my sister (obviously) and I'm also supposed to be moving house soon, but I haven't even started to pack. I start a new job at the end of this month, so that's one positive, but the way I feel right now, I could just go to bed and hibernate for a few months.
Does anyone else get like this, this time of year? :-(
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Awww flip, sorry to hear that.
In answer to your question, no I don't feel like this at this time of year, im a miserable cow all year round ;-)
Will looking at what will be a new addition to the Boo household very soon cheer you up any?
http://i44.tinypic.com/111l85h.jpg
Chin up :-)
In answer to your question, no I don't feel like this at this time of year, im a miserable cow all year round ;-)
Will looking at what will be a new addition to the Boo household very soon cheer you up any?
http://i44.tinypic.com/111l85h.jpg
Chin up :-)
You sound like you're depressed, flip, down in the dumps, with a lot on your plate at the moment - and lots facing you with the move and the dark nights, and Christmas.
I don't think you have depression, which is a clinical condition, but I think you have a lot on your back - but you have done the right first thing in recognising that you are down. Clinical depression has a nasty habit of sneaking up you and you don't realise that you are there 'til you're in it.
I find that when things get me down like this - and it does, heavy workloads at work, home demands, long office journeys - I make lists of the things I need to do. Yes it can be daunting but at least then you can see what you are facing, and you can get satisfaction from starting to cross them off.
There is something to remember here - you have to differentiate between the things you can do something about, and the things you can't, that will happen with or without your action. Your sister's situation is very worrying for you all, but she is doing the right thing in having the op, but you can't do anything about that - that's out of your hands. Try to differentiate between things you can affect, and things you can't - that helped me, to see the things which are getting you down that I could take action on, and the ones I just had to wait and see. Your sis is one, and the dark nights is another - you can't influence those.
Try to focus on good things - your new job, your sister coming to stay after her op - get things ready for her coming to you, get yourself in order for the new job, and hopefully the other things will come into perspective. Make sure you are sleeping enough and at the right times too - daytime hiberation is great, but it's a way of shutting stuff out, and you need not to do that.
I hope this helps - I know where you (although under different circumstances). Keep talking to us, too!
I don't think you have depression, which is a clinical condition, but I think you have a lot on your back - but you have done the right first thing in recognising that you are down. Clinical depression has a nasty habit of sneaking up you and you don't realise that you are there 'til you're in it.
I find that when things get me down like this - and it does, heavy workloads at work, home demands, long office journeys - I make lists of the things I need to do. Yes it can be daunting but at least then you can see what you are facing, and you can get satisfaction from starting to cross them off.
There is something to remember here - you have to differentiate between the things you can do something about, and the things you can't, that will happen with or without your action. Your sister's situation is very worrying for you all, but she is doing the right thing in having the op, but you can't do anything about that - that's out of your hands. Try to differentiate between things you can affect, and things you can't - that helped me, to see the things which are getting you down that I could take action on, and the ones I just had to wait and see. Your sis is one, and the dark nights is another - you can't influence those.
Try to focus on good things - your new job, your sister coming to stay after her op - get things ready for her coming to you, get yourself in order for the new job, and hopefully the other things will come into perspective. Make sure you are sleeping enough and at the right times too - daytime hiberation is great, but it's a way of shutting stuff out, and you need not to do that.
I hope this helps - I know where you (although under different circumstances). Keep talking to us, too!
I must admit to feeling terrified at the prospect of Christmas looming. My brother has invited me to stay at his house for Christmas, I love him dearly (don't always 'like' him though) and his wife and three little ones are great but ...... It is a bit of travelling to get there and one of my cats is sickly with his asthma and (as they are my babies) I just can't face sticking him in the cattery over this time. There is no way they will be able to cope with his medications.
I think that there is a limit to 'stuff' that any of us can cope with - and then we get overwhelmed and even the smallest thing seems just too much. You will be worried about your sister - that is understandable.
I think that a good crying session is good for us - alas due to my being forced to take Lithium my emotions have been blunted a bit. Sometimes the cure sees so much worse than the illness. Being manic was fun!
Thanks for your post - writing all the crap helps a little (not as much as chocolate though). Maybe we will be lucky and encounter a spontaneous act of kindness - something nice might happen to us.
Good luck to you and your sister.
I think that there is a limit to 'stuff' that any of us can cope with - and then we get overwhelmed and even the smallest thing seems just too much. You will be worried about your sister - that is understandable.
I think that a good crying session is good for us - alas due to my being forced to take Lithium my emotions have been blunted a bit. Sometimes the cure sees so much worse than the illness. Being manic was fun!
Thanks for your post - writing all the crap helps a little (not as much as chocolate though). Maybe we will be lucky and encounter a spontaneous act of kindness - something nice might happen to us.
Good luck to you and your sister.
Many people do, Flip, it is something you need to address if I can be blunt with you
At least you are recognising the symptoms and that is a big positive, believe me.
A very close friend of mine suffers from similar symptoms and she has been diagonised as bipolar - combined with another form of depression as well (from the other side of the family). Unfortunately, she has been sectioned five times, and I was there for one of those, and nice it is not as the deep, hidden side of the brain can work in the most mysterious (aggressive) way and the process itself was not one I would like to relive. I am not saying that your bipolar, but you do need to bottom out what is driving all what you highlight and maybe more, stuff that you rightly choose not to share.
I too had a period two years ago but that was a straight depression but I felt awful too, unhappy, problems etc etc - in my case it was major stress and not from work.
What I am advocating it is worth investing a quiet chat with your Doctor and then take it from there - it may be well some counselling which I did without telling the rest of the family, as I wanted to boss this myself (I had also studied the management of change etc professionally so that helped too).
It is brave of you to put this on here and I hope people give you sensible responses. Let me know if you need someone to talk too (or just for e-mails) and we can arrange contact off line through using a dummy e-mail to avoid the possibility of nutters.
Good luck - one of the things I would advocate for tonight is a long hot soak in a bath with a few candles lit.....life might feel a little better, albeit temporarily.
At least you are recognising the symptoms and that is a big positive, believe me.
A very close friend of mine suffers from similar symptoms and she has been diagonised as bipolar - combined with another form of depression as well (from the other side of the family). Unfortunately, she has been sectioned five times, and I was there for one of those, and nice it is not as the deep, hidden side of the brain can work in the most mysterious (aggressive) way and the process itself was not one I would like to relive. I am not saying that your bipolar, but you do need to bottom out what is driving all what you highlight and maybe more, stuff that you rightly choose not to share.
I too had a period two years ago but that was a straight depression but I felt awful too, unhappy, problems etc etc - in my case it was major stress and not from work.
What I am advocating it is worth investing a quiet chat with your Doctor and then take it from there - it may be well some counselling which I did without telling the rest of the family, as I wanted to boss this myself (I had also studied the management of change etc professionally so that helped too).
It is brave of you to put this on here and I hope people give you sensible responses. Let me know if you need someone to talk too (or just for e-mails) and we can arrange contact off line through using a dummy e-mail to avoid the possibility of nutters.
Good luck - one of the things I would advocate for tonight is a long hot soak in a bath with a few candles lit.....life might feel a little better, albeit temporarily.
Hi flip. It seems that you have a lot of problems in your life. There is a big difference between actually being depressed and life being depression. Medication is not always the answer. There are two things which may help: Exercise (even though it is probably the last thing you feel like doing) even running up and down stairs a few times, releases endorphins which make you feel happier. Also, I am currently on a diet for SAD (seasonal affected disorder). I have noticed a huge difference. The main thing is to eat as little of refined carbs (sugar and white flour are the worst offendeer) as possible. I have been cooking a large bowl of brown rice and chilling down quickly. I have this with chicken or tuna with baby leaf spinach or rocket (or similar green salad) for my lunch instead of sarnis. The difference in two weeks has been amazing. Lastly, as boxtops said, try to look around at what you have and appreciate it. Love and hugs.
Could it be SAD....seasonal affective disorder? Very common this time of year,and in this country. It's due to the lengthening days and lack of real sunlight.
I suffer with it,and after doing some reading about how a lack of Vit D3 may contribute to it,I started taking a supplement back in September. I can honestly say that I am MUCH better than I would ordinarily be this time of the year. Apparently-any sunlight we get in this country after September is so weak,it's totally lacking in benefits-so for some,supplementation is useful. Magnesium and B vitamins are also good for mood and your nervous system.
I suffer with it,and after doing some reading about how a lack of Vit D3 may contribute to it,I started taking a supplement back in September. I can honestly say that I am MUCH better than I would ordinarily be this time of the year. Apparently-any sunlight we get in this country after September is so weak,it's totally lacking in benefits-so for some,supplementation is useful. Magnesium and B vitamins are also good for mood and your nervous system.
Oh wow, what an adorable little kitty that is B00. That did make me smile :-)
Box, thanks. I agree, I don't think I am suffering with depression as such, just seriously down in the dumps.
I do feel awful moaning, when there people so many other people who are much worse off. I think, with regards to the whole "sister thing", I've spent the past few weeks putting on this really happy persona, to keep the rest of the family upbeat. I've had really off days lately, yet when my Mum calls to say hello, I put on this act like everything is fine. I feel like I can't really talk to any of them, as they all have enough on their plates as it is.
Sara, you are right of course. The kids are well and healthy, and we have a home. I know things can always be much worse, but sometimes the negatives seem to stand out more than the positives. I may go for a walk or something, get some fresh air.
Thanks, Wolf. It's good to share your troubles sometimes isn't it. Coming on here was the last option, I've been thinking about it all day. It's quite nice to just sit here and type away though, and know that you don't have to face the people you are speaking to... if that makes sense.
Hi DT. Thanks for sharing your story. It's nice to know I'm not alone :-)
I don't think I am "clinically depressed", though I may go and see my doctor on Monday and have a chat.
I'm usually pretty happy go lucky, but just feel as though everything's got on top of me lately.
I did have a bout of depression a few years back, but that was postnatal so not really the same as now. I feel like this is more stress than anything else.
Box, thanks. I agree, I don't think I am suffering with depression as such, just seriously down in the dumps.
I do feel awful moaning, when there people so many other people who are much worse off. I think, with regards to the whole "sister thing", I've spent the past few weeks putting on this really happy persona, to keep the rest of the family upbeat. I've had really off days lately, yet when my Mum calls to say hello, I put on this act like everything is fine. I feel like I can't really talk to any of them, as they all have enough on their plates as it is.
Sara, you are right of course. The kids are well and healthy, and we have a home. I know things can always be much worse, but sometimes the negatives seem to stand out more than the positives. I may go for a walk or something, get some fresh air.
Thanks, Wolf. It's good to share your troubles sometimes isn't it. Coming on here was the last option, I've been thinking about it all day. It's quite nice to just sit here and type away though, and know that you don't have to face the people you are speaking to... if that makes sense.
Hi DT. Thanks for sharing your story. It's nice to know I'm not alone :-)
I don't think I am "clinically depressed", though I may go and see my doctor on Monday and have a chat.
I'm usually pretty happy go lucky, but just feel as though everything's got on top of me lately.
I did have a bout of depression a few years back, but that was postnatal so not really the same as now. I feel like this is more stress than anything else.
Flip - you have friends here who you can talk to without being criticised or giving away things.
Clinical depression is dreadful - Stephen fry has had the courage to talk about it.
You aren't in that situation - It could be the combination of the run up to Christmas and the cold weather & dark evenings.
All that being said, it could help if you talked to a professional advisor, who could help you sort out what really matters to you, and what you don't need to worry about.
I knew someone with clinical depression, and it really made a difference.
A counsellor would give you a free chat, and could help sort it all out.
I'm only a bloke, but i do have sympathy.
Clinical depression is dreadful - Stephen fry has had the courage to talk about it.
You aren't in that situation - It could be the combination of the run up to Christmas and the cold weather & dark evenings.
All that being said, it could help if you talked to a professional advisor, who could help you sort out what really matters to you, and what you don't need to worry about.
I knew someone with clinical depression, and it really made a difference.
A counsellor would give you a free chat, and could help sort it all out.
I'm only a bloke, but i do have sympathy.
Anngel, thanks :-) Yes, I agree. I don't think this is "depression" as such (probably should have used a better title) but just me being down in the dumps and not really seeing a light at the end of the tunnel right now. Once I've finished these replies, I'm going to get my coat on and go out for a walk. I do stay fairly active, but I suppose I haven't done much these past couple of weeks. As for the diet, I completely agree. Carbs do make me feel a bit "blurgh", but I'm actually on a minimum carb diet at the mo, so couldn't really change much about that. Good advice though... thanks.
Ummmm, yep, I definitely know the reasons behind why I feel like this. I wish I hadn't titled this thread "depression" now. I just feel down in the dumps... a lot. Thanks :-)
Pasta, funny you should say that. There was a bit of sun earlier, so I went and sat in the garden for twenty minutes, as I'd read somewhere that we need 20 minutes of sun/vitamin d a day to stay healthy. Not sure why I bothered now, after reading your comment. I will get some vitamins though, definitely. My diet isn't very good at the moment (probably another reason why I feel so crappy) so that will probably help.
I'm going to go now (so apologies for not responding to anyone else) but I'm going to go for a walk and get some fresh air.
I'll be back later, no doubt, so will speak then.
Thanks again :-)
Ummmm, yep, I definitely know the reasons behind why I feel like this. I wish I hadn't titled this thread "depression" now. I just feel down in the dumps... a lot. Thanks :-)
Pasta, funny you should say that. There was a bit of sun earlier, so I went and sat in the garden for twenty minutes, as I'd read somewhere that we need 20 minutes of sun/vitamin d a day to stay healthy. Not sure why I bothered now, after reading your comment. I will get some vitamins though, definitely. My diet isn't very good at the moment (probably another reason why I feel so crappy) so that will probably help.
I'm going to go now (so apologies for not responding to anyone else) but I'm going to go for a walk and get some fresh air.
I'll be back later, no doubt, so will speak then.
Thanks again :-)
