A partner 'checklist'?

[Sade]

What is your checklist - things you look for in a partner before you would consider them seriously? I am interested in what the differences are between men's and women's. For example, I asked my Dad this and he said that he thinks the thing that is most important to a woman is having a "reliable husband". Hahah!

[cazzz1975]

sense of humour
not a psycho
laid back

[boxtops]

I didn't have a check list.

I wanted it to be a bloke.

However, if I were going to have a list:

Kind
Preferably working so I'm not paying for everything
Interesting
Professing interest in what I like to do
My friends like him
Able to iron and wash up, to share the chores
Must like cats

[boxtops]

^^ Awwww that sounds like desperation, like "any bloke" - LOL, I didn't mean that, I was just biding my time until someone I liked the look of came alone.

[ummmm]

Sense of humour.
Loyal.
Hard working.
Caring.
Tolerant.

[Beaky364]

Pretty
Fit body
can cook
Likes music, clubbing and dancing
great sense of humour, the wilder and wackier the better
Faithful, reliable and honest.
Loves sex.

[boxtops]

Do we naturally gravitate to people who look a bit like us? I think perhaps we do.

[Sade]

Any men on here care to join in? :)

[cazzz1975]

I dont believe in checklists to be honest, I work on meeting someone and getting to know them first, then seeing if their is a connection.

i think having a list of attributes, skills and abilities to fulfil is bizarre!

[Prudie]

I never had a checklist but on reflection important to me is
honesty
similar values
similar level of IQ
not destitute
physical chemistry

[boxtops]

I agree cazz, I guess my list is my own sense of values and I'd hope anyone I lived with shared those values.

[ummmm]

I think you're better off having a 'no no' list....There are some people that I would never have dreamt of going out with, regardless of how attractive they are.

Boxy....I would have said no to going for people that looked like ourselves. Until I look at old photos and see how much my Mum looks like my Dads sister. Then recently at a family funeral a cousin who had never seen my OH assumed he was blood related. It wasn't until he pointed it out that I thought 'OMG....'!!

[Postdog]

Not enough paper in the world......

[notasyoungasiwas]

As long as he loves animals and doesn't look like Quasimodo, I'm fine !

[boxtops]

I like your no-no idea, ummmm - I agree with that, I have a bargepole list rather than a must-have list, too!

[cazzz1975]

think about it, how would you react to a guy who had a ticklist of criteria that you had to adhere to ie:

average height
ideal weight
must work
have a GSOH
must be able to do chores ie washing. ironing
intelligent
no pets or children
non smoker
caring and kind

looks quite a realistic list, but just having the list is a big big turn off.

[boxtops]

That looks like an ad in a lonelyhearts column, cazzz :-)

[Prudie]

Thing is aren't these the kind of things you have to put together when joining relationship sites?

[Sade]

Think you're absolutely right re. the looking like ourselves thing. Think maybe it's a primal instinct we have in which we try and continue our genes by choosing a partner who is similar to ourselves. Or it could be that the familiarity and comfort we felt as a child looking at our parents is subconsciously reflected in our choice of partner- they may well resemble a younger version of one of our parents! Hence, ourselves.

[DTCwordfan]

Honesty
Openness
Considerate
Artistic
Similar IQ
Lots of interests (not necessarily the same)
Enjoys Food and Wine - and Sex
Golfer a plus, however good or crap
Good Looking helps (I can describe that if you want....and I don't mean model like)

[Beaky364]

Lets face it when you're drunk, needy, lonely or desperate all checklists go out the window and our standards slip.