Living on your own

[coccinelle]

I'm finding living on my own and being owner to the house and savings is getting to me. I have to decide on my own etc will this sort itself out or should I be looking into changing things? I don't fancy the idea of moving out as this is my home but I'm coming to realise it's now too big for me. Problem is, I don't know where I'd want to live....
Any suggestions will be most welcome. Debate more than answers i think....

[albaqwerty]

just wanted to send you a cyber hug x

Just take your time about making any decisions. Do not put any pressure on yourself and do not let anyone else do likewise.

[ttfn]

Hello coccinelle - nice to see you again. I think it is probably a good idea to be 'thinking' about moving just so one becomes aware gradually of what possibilities exist. That has to be a better option than suddenly finding oneself having to move. I hope you are getting on all right xx

[starone]

When my husband died two years ago, after sixty-three years of marriage, I was absolutely devastated (still am). He had told me to sell this house and move into a flat or a bungalow - downsizing of course but at the time I could not. Every time I thought about it I cried. But I had to get on with it myself, there is no option. However, I am getting older and this house is too big for me. I have finally decided to sell and move into a bungalow, nearer my daughter (not with her, I don't think that would work). This plan has not succeeded yet. I have had two offers, both of which fell through - one at the last minute - but I am still trying. I have decided that all my memories are in my head, not in this house and that is one reason I now realise he was right in what he said. I suppose in a way, he is still making the decisions for me. Before you decide coccinelle make sure you know where you want to go - because you will be burning your bridges behind you and once done there will be no going back.

[coccinelle]

Thanks for the hug alba! ttfn & starbuck: the first year there was no question of me moving but I think something might be changing inside and my brain's now thinking of the possibility. I have no idea where I'd go so as you say I should be 'thinking' about it. There is comfort in staying put without the trauma of a move and making so many changes once moved but there's this niggle that tells me my brain is concocting something. I'm not good at making changes and big decisions, my husband did that, but I do have time nothing pressing me. Thank you

[joggerjayne]

If you don't know where you want to move to ... then don't move.

I really wanted to be right here, where I am ... almost to the yard.

If I could have walked into town, walked to any spot, and said "This is where I want to live" ... I would have been standing outside the flat where I live now.

I can see the sea. I can smell the sea air. I can hear the buzz from the town. If I'm out late with my pals, we all come back here to sleep, because I'm a few minutes walk from anywhere in the town. I so so so much wanted to live right here.

Seriously ... if you don't feel as strongly as I did ... then don't move.

Not just yet.

Not until you find somewhere and fall in love with it.

[coccinelle]

Thanks jj; so glad you have found the perfect place, hope I do one day. I do love this place but sometimes find it's too big just for me, a lot of work in the garden and a lot of responsibility. But like you one day I might find the perfect place to move to.