is it cheating?

[al9903221]

i saw my girlfriend snogging her gay male friend last night, who has snogged several girls recently (!!), she claims my anger is wrong because he's gay. Am i right to want to split up over this. She spends tons of time with him but says this is the first time its happened. She said at first he jumped her but when i said i saw she said she'd challenged him to kiss her because he'd been kissing a girl the previous night and she said 'well wots wrong with me?'

[Scarlett]

I wouldn't split up over it- but I would questin why your girlfriend has to be seen snogging anyone in public except you- regardless of their sexuality!

If this chap is snogging girls, I would say he is maybe still confused as to his sexuality, which is his affair. He must try and work it out without involving girls who are already spoken for- otherwise it's just not fair.

[flashpig]

It depends how important snoggage is to you. And to her. But mostly how important it is to you. If she just thinks its okay to snog anybody because it doesn't mean anything to her because they're gay or whatever, then she thinks it's not. But if it means something to you then yes it is cheating. Even though she mightn't have known.

So, yes it's cheating. It's cheating if she snogs a man, a woman, a dog, whatever, regardless of sexuality.

Unless, of course, she was coerced into it or threatened. In which case you have to beat him up. Really badly. Use a bit of wood.

If she was going to snog someone who couldn't fall in love with her couldn't it have been a straight woman?

[Philtaz]

LOL, Sounds like your girlfriend might have met my mate!  He often goes round town pretending to be gay and asking girls to kiss him to help him decide what his sexual orientation is!

[ll_billym]

I would agree that snogging anyone else except for you is wrong but I think that splitting up with her is a bit drastic provided you honestly believe that she thinks she has done nothing wrong.  I would let it be an "If it ever happens again, it's over" issue.

[KittyGlitter]

I agree with the above posts. I don't think it matters what sexual orientation this guy is, it's still a snog and they can dress it up whatever way they like. Tell her how it's made you feel and if she continues to snog him, I guess then you can decide whether she is worth staying with. Because then you know she will have acted in a way that she knows will upset you i.e disrespecting your feelings. You could always snog a lesbian in front of her and see how she likes that ;-) 

[MargeB]

Dump him.

[RogK]

In the 18th century play "The Country Wife" Mr Horner (geddit?) pretends to be a eunuch to seduce the ladies, with great success.

Don't split up, but do keep and eye on her - and him! Be happy and don't let it get to you. I suggest it's probably a one-off.

[snoteater]

Dump her.

[nicola_red]

I think only you can answer whether snogging is a dumpworthy crime.  When I was in my previous relationship, a close male friend 'jumped me' as you say and we kissed.  I knew he was confused and having some relationship problems but nevertheless I didn't expect it at all and I was very shocked.  I knew I didn't want to be more than good friends with him so I didn't take it any further and I told my bf.  He was pretty jealous and suspicious but we never really considered splitting over it.  However, if he'd caught us at it rather than me telling him it may have been different...

[Gevs1966]

Snog one of your female friends in front of her on a night out and see how she likes it

[OBonio]

Get rid of her. She's lying through her ruddy teeth.

[mr_moleo]

Best form of revenge would be to snog him in front of her. That way you can determine whether he really is gay or not. Additionally it will also mean that you will be able to make your gf jealous and show her that this guy is a real man *****. And finally it will also mean that you can come to terms with the screaming fact that you are latently gay. Come admit it you're as a bent as a right angle

[lizzierose]

hes blatantly not gay. otherwise hwe wouldn't have snogged loads of girls recently. would you go round snogging blokes for fun?