After kids...

[Scarlett]

I was just wondering whether sex (for the man) feels different once the woman has had a couple of kids. Or does everything retract back to it's "normal" shape/elasticity afterwards? I know that some women have tightening operations after having kids. (I don't have any yet, and just wondered about the after effects, physically.)

[Gilli]

Apparently not (that is, sex doesn't feel different) ..... so my partner tells me.

Women are, of course, urged to do as many pelvic floor exercises as they can possibly manage following childbirth - which should ensure the relevant muscles are strengthed ..... we should all be doing these anyway !

Personally, I find it quite demeaning and rather insulting when men (and it usually is men) make derogatory remarks about a woman's internal "size" following having kids. Some women do take a while to recover in that area - especially if she's had to have stitches and comments along those lines do nothing for your self confidence.

[dirtyharriet]

My partner says he hasn't noticed any difference whatsoever, but I have always done my pelvic floor exercises.

In my experience the type of men who would say that sort of thing about women are worried about their own small penises

[i_go_comando]

My wife has had 5 children and both she and I havent noticed any diffrence. It all still works breat and I havent noticed any looseness as it were... she has just informed me that she didnt bother doing all those pc muscle exercises. I wouldnt worry.

[Cheesefreek]

My husband still can't get enough of me after two kids - one the size of a planet.  Says nothing's different.   Wonderful!  An ex-boyfriend of a friend of mine very insultingly told her (he was very bitter and twisted) that having sex with her was like a thrusting a germ in the Mersey Tunnel.  She finally saw the light and threw him into touch.

[normyc]

after my wife having 2 kids, sex is better than ever.... the only down side is when they walk in on you while you are partaking!

[Gevs1966]

A mate of mine and his partner have 4 kids and he says that these days it's like waving a flag on the moon!

[smudge]

After our two daughters were born, 'it' was just as good, or even better! Mind you, they were both spontaneous births, with no stitches or complications.

[ALLO]

i think the only change after a baby would be the woman thinking she's too fat to be sexy, or too tired! i've had 2 kids and my husband don't complain about my being too loose. then again if he did i would kick his arse!!!!!!!!!!!!! so i guess he knows when to shut his mouth!

[smudge]

Straight to the point as usual ALLO - that really make me laugh!

[MangoPete]

it can make a difference even if you do pelvic floor exercises.
it depends if you had an episiotomy and well you were stiched. my wife was quite loose after the first tightened up after the second was very loose after the third then after the twins she was tighter than she had ever been, thanks to the surgeon, and it was noyl then she was able to achieve multiple orgasms. Why do women in the us have their rs tightened after children?