Not nice thoughts...

[tinkerbell23]

I KNOW im like a broken record!

And iv had ALL the advice under the sun!!!! (which i am following honest)

Have a bath run, had my tablets plus a few kalms....
Awaiting councelling...


Usually the daft thoughts brought on the panic and then i was ok...

But past few days the silly thoughts have been 10x worse :0(

Dont know why! Ive had diarreah and im also wretching with the big ball of fear in my stomach.....

Wish i knew why theyve gotten worse...when ive made positive steps this week.

Ive kept busy and kept in company but i keep having to take deep breaths and just cant shake the feelings....even trying to fall asleep is so hard because i cant switch off- that includes when i have meditation earphones in and my tablet that makes me sleepy :0(

Just wanted to say really. I know ive had all
Of the most amazing advice xx

[Gavmacp]

Hello yet again,
Another thing you could try is working out how you become anxious. Your own unique and wonderful strategy for becoming anxious. This is NLP neuro linguistic programming. When I became anxious I thought it just happened but we create it. It may start by a thought or feeling or just a vagueness but we create it.
The theory is that if you can get a sense of how you create your anxiety you can start to play around with it and then you take some control over it.
The voice that maybe in your head, well give it a silly sound. Where do you feel it, well can you move it somewhere else, does that feeling have it's unique motion well turn it in a different way. The image that is in your head turn the colour off and if you can do that push it far away until it disappears. The aching muscles, well why not try and use different muscles why just using the same ones.
All the time taking more control over how YOU run your body.
Love,
Gavin

[tinkerbell23]

Its of dying. Its always been that :0( told the doc that too- makes it worse cos i know that its unavoidable......cant controll it! So that makes it worse too unfortunately :0((

Just learn to sort my feelings soon hopefully...even typing that sends me into a cold sweat xx

[tinkerbell23]

Thanks gavin.... I have my theorys about why i may be like this ...and underlying issues- why im sooo looking forward to the counselling!!

Thanks for your replies you really know your stuff its great -
Just checking utube xx

[ladyalex]

But you're not dying today, are you ?

[Gavmacp]

The fear of dying is quite normal so my next question is what exactly are you scared of?

[Gavmacp]

In fact give me five fears about dying and then when you have exhausted yourself give me two more.

[sunflower68]

sorry to steal in but Gavin that is so interesting and such a logical theory. I will pass that on to my ex, sorry have to call him Mr exsunflower but he is a good pal. I think he will enjoy pondering and Googling that. He loves his counselling sessions and perhaps has come across it before himself. And Tinks his thoughts were similar to yours. Please understand if you stay focussed and in control of this as much as you can be you can control these feelings for the better.xx

[tinkerbell23]

Just done the EFT! Liked it...

Well lady...i dont know when? Could be any minute, in my sleep, 2years 40years .... Xx

Gavin its of being dead- i just wont know! I dont know when i wont know when .....it terrifies me so so so much xx

[Gavmacp]

Dear Sunflower,
Steal in as much as you like I would never like to think I am an expert in this field. In fact never really got to understand why I became anxious. I wanted to become a hypnoherapist/NLP therapist but no one on my course or the people teaching us could uncover my feelings. I gave the course up as I would not of felt comfortable trying to pretend I was helping people when I wasn't.
Though I am still fascinated by it. Especially the 15 years of talking with no change then the three sessions of tapping stupid parts of my body and BINGO I am cured.
Love,
Gavin

[ladyalex]

I think your anxiety is about something else entirely. (Only you know what). It's just got 'attached' to being afraid of dying.
After all we all die someday. Most of us don't give it much thought, especially when we are feeling fit and well.
In other words, I think your anxious thoughts about death are what you think about when you are anxious, not the cause of your anxieties.

[Gavmacp]

Tinkerbell,
I hear you, the thought fear of dying is actually quite common.
I do not want to make you uncomfortable I just want to know what it means to you! You mentioned control so I might ask is what is it about being in control?

[tinkerbell23]

You may be right ladyalex...i know i keep saying it but i did go through a really traumatic time few years ago with a relationship- partly my own fault for alllowing it- ive changed in a good way though relationship wise id never take crap again!!! Had difficult really distressing periods with my mum at times....4yrs ago i had a flat a job and a bg and within literally 3months i had lost it all! Mabye i have a few issues- this is why i asked for counselling- i am positive that something will just "click" and ill realise. Will be interesting! My friend said the same xxx

[ladyalex]

I do hope it all clicks into place for you, Tinks, and am sure it will.
Night night.

[tinkerbell23]

Well gavin i suppose its because i know its going to happen! But not when so i used to be fine thinking ill be old and by that time ill have accepted the enevitable! But now im like oh it could be now! Tomorrow! Might not wake up! What if i lose my mind and have dementia etc- (silly i know)

Gave it waaay too much thought (lol) and i think...THINK sometimes....when i was little my mum really really forced me to do things i didnt want to...and ever since ive been able ive been really independant and control my life- tell her bery little- i keep the silliest bits of info to myself jut because i can - like appointment times, or what i bought in asda or what im doing at weekend.....causes arguments cos she is just making convo with me but i hoard my personal information just because i can!!!!!! And im feisty and independant and not a sheep....

So possibly i dont like that i cant controll this? I hve a few ideas as to why xx

[Gavmacp]

Tinkerbell,
You say "you lost it all". What do you mean?

[Gavmacp]

So being in control is important to you?

[tinkerbell23]

Lost it all- i was made redundant, finished with the BF (seriously a very good thing) after 4.5years and eventually had to move home because i couldnt afford my flat when i went to uni!

Its not actually important no...believe it or not im a live and let live person quite laid back unless you really rattle my cage- independant, loud probobly!! Chatty fun loving really caring.... Always on time..i dont need to controll alot actually. Weird eh ...xx

[sunflower68]

hey Gavin well who would have thought tapping yourself would help but it is amazing what the body and mind can do with a bit of direction!! I think Paul Mckenna has highlighted it too for some health difficulties though I can't be sure. Hey Tinkerbell let's all hit ourselves about a bit and feel great....Gavin and Tinks I know you know I am jesting ; )XX

[Gavmacp]

Very important!
So did you feel you had lost control?