Why do men ask me if i've had previous relationships?

[ANHPAM]

when a man who wants to date me calls and asks me if I've had relationships since my divorce what's he getting at?

[rojash]

P'raps he wants to know if you've had relationships since your divorce.

[DaisyNonna]

What do you think? Not exactly his business unless he does date you.

[tenrec]

He's being nosey!

[Kassee]

He might not be "getting at" anything - but just making conversation. Its rather like asking how long were you married or how long have you been on your own or why did you split up?

[missprim]

He's probably trying to find out if you're the type that sleeps around.

[JonnyBoy12]

Yes, I agree with missprim on this one, but who would admit to sleeping around?

[jno]

that's not really a very promising first topic of conversation, is it? I'm inclined to agree with tenrec - he's nosey. That's the sort of thing you might discuss on a tenth date, but perhaps not even then

[B00]

Yes, I agree with missprim on this one, but who would admit to sleeping around?

Why not if you have? What anyone does before they embark on a relationship has nothing to do with the current partner.

[Psybbo]

He's just checking if the vultures have been around.

[starone]

Sounds to me as if he wants to know if you are up for it. And if you aren't cut him off right away.

[DTCwordfan]

It's a question of assessing the risk of STDs, but not that "sensitive"

[DaisyNonna]

Whatever his motives, best avoided. Insensitive or rude or nosey or out for what he can get.

[Brinjal]

I would reply oh uum let me see now! Um how about you and your relationships and see how forthcoming he is.

[RATTER15]

Boo, >>Why not if you have? What anyone does before they embark on a relationship has nothing to do with the current partner.<<

I disagree, I would not want a relationship with the local bike, I would like to know that the woman I was dating had some morals. I wouldn't be quite as blunt as to ask outright like that though.

[boxtops]

What happened before you met the person you're currently with is not important IMO (as long as they haven't got an STI, and they're loyal to you).

[ummmm]

Insecurity. Fear that if you've had lot's of partners you can't be trusted.

I've never been asked this question.

[boxtops]

Nor have I, nor have I asked it of anyone.

[RATTER15]

The thought of sleeping with a woman that has been sleeping around really turns my stomach!! Gross.

[boxtops]

I know what you mean, ratter, but how many (over a period of time) would be acceptable? (I don't want you to give a number, but in a lifetime, surely some men and women might have had quite a few partners?)

[ummmm]

Me and OH have known each other a long time so we have an idea.