husband forgot anniversary- again

[crisgal]

And i don't feel cross. Just very very sad. He always does it and it's a bit of a joke( although i do find it hard to laugh inside. But this time, i think I've had enough.

[DTCwordfan]

Reverse "50 Shades of Grey" in the lcg house, evidently..............

[shaneystar2]

We've been married nearly forty years .We don't do cards , fuss and slush .
It doesn't bother me in the slightest .

[DTCwordfan]

and agree about spontaneity - and it works both ways, gals......

[LoftyLottie]

Yes it does DT.

But I don't do the romance thing. Just not me!! (or him).

[naomi24]

DT, 'spontaneous' is my middle name. ;o)

Seriously, my husband brings me gifts any time of year, and that means more to me than him giving gifts only when he feels obliged to.

[shaneystar2]

Well DT my husband could have been six foot under a couple of years ago .
I much prefer to have him around and I don't need a card to know that he loves me and vice versa .

[DTCwordfan]

what works for the two of you doesn't work for others.....I am sure you realise that. A touch of romance, and not necessarily slushy, never did any of us any harm.....especially if it leads to some good rumpety-pumpety.....(blushes at that)

[lcg]

he is hard work, dt....he has mental health problems and i am his carer as well as his wife. i organise absolutely everything......i do get him little bits and bobs every now and then to show him i think about him and love him, but he never surprises me with anything. so....when he forgot or couldn't be arsed to do a card on the anniversary he knew was coming - he got in very hot water. we only do cards (and he is very good a poetry which is silly and risque) but this year...nada. it makes me feel like he doesn't give a flying Sugar.

[RATTER15]

I always forget this type of thing, I dont see what all the fuss is about to be honest.

[DTCwordfan]

agree with that naomi.....

[naomi24]

DT, smacked knees!! :o)

[crisgal]

Well like i said, normally i do laugh it off as much as i can. I don't know why i feel so sad this time. Thank you everyone. It's interesting to hear different opinions. He's very sorry and i feel

[crisgal]

Bad for him.

[jno]

I think cards (etc) that people have been reminded to give are pretty much worthless. Giving under duress doesn't count. They remember or they don't. If they don't, you'll just have to decide whether other signs of affection are sufficient for you.

[paddywak]

I'm terrible at remembering special dates, but I must confess that Trish forgives me because I often buy her something for no special reason apart from the fact I think she'll like it.

[naomi24]

Don't feel bad for him - if it means that much to you just remember he's rubbish at dates - and remind him next time! x

[tinkerbell23]

I can understand you feeling this way crisgal....it means alot to you and i bet it means alot to him too the forgetfull eejit!!

Special anniversarys i think should be marked, they are all too uncommon now xxx and congrats xxxx

[DTCwordfan]

wow, you guys are coming through heavy here.

shaney - fully understandable, I think anything like what you guys have experienced sharpens us both ways, well I hope it does.

lcg - hard to say from our remote perspective but you say that he has some mental issues that both of you are having to handle - are they impacting on him and if so, I (we) can understand how you feel, particularly on special days such as wedding anns if the reciprocation is not there. To me, I would have been happy just to receive an "I love you", expressed with sincerity - you don't need a card or flowers or fancy dinner at that point.

[sherrardk]

I have to tell himself it's my birthday (otherwise the kids miss the whole birthday thing), also, I am funny about birthdays. Being a twin I had to share my brithday so that now I want my own (I don't want stuff, I just want it remembered). Said happy anniversary to him this year and he brought loads of flowers home that evening (totally unexpected, especially as I don't own vase).

[DTCwordfan]

Now crisgal, where within reason would you like to go for a weekend (yes, dirty one and I hope tony isn't stalking lol) - and within "reason"

For example, this is a lovely place, no exquisite.

http://www.yorke-arms.co.uk/