Why Do Some Guys Pick Body Over Face?

[MelanieH86]

I googled this a lot, and I see that most guys all say that they will not date an ugly girl. And they will say they will take the chubbier girl with the prettier face over the ugly girl with a thin body. I would like to meet these guys because I am always overlooked because of my body. I am overweight (I am working on losing weight) and I get turned down all the time. There is this guy I am in love with, and he chose some ugly bitch over me just because her body is hot. She is hideous and disgusting. Her face is the ugliest thing in the world, so why would her choose her nasty ass? And this happens all the time, and not just to me but other women I know. Us beautiful gorgeous girls get overlooked for some ugly skinny thing. I could understand if she were skinny and hot, but she is NOT. Ugly girls don't deserve love.

See, I can lose weight and be even more hotter than I am now. She can't change her face. Ugly pathetic loser of a bitch she is.


So here is the question and be perfectly honestly. The ugly pathetic loser of skinny girl, or the beautiful gorgeous girl who is curvy. Real women have curves anyway.

[ummmm]

Wow...you sound angry.

Maybe he likes her personality. Maybe she doesn't go round calling women ugly bitches....just a thought!

[Prudie]

Have you considered that a nice personality might play a part?

[Baldric]

Sorry, did someone speak?

[MelanieH86]

Question asker here: Just because this is an angry question doesn't mean I have a bad personality. I just had a bad night and I am venting. I'm sure some people on here have made venting posts before when they were angry. Doesn't mean that post reflects all of your personality. And guaranteed tomorrow once I've slept on it, I'll see that this post was angry. And to be honest, I probably should have waited until tomorrow once I've cooled down to ask. But I found the first Q and A site I could find, registered and asked.

Of course personality is important, but you need to be attracted to the person you are dating. How can an ugly face compete with a pretty face?

And that guy likes me a lot, we've been friends for years. And people always describe me as "the nice girl" including him. Yet he chose the ugly girl who he has known a month just because of her body.

[ummmm]

He obviously doesn't see her as ugly.

[Bbbananas]

"Hideous disgusting loser ugly bitch?"
Like the above folk, I guess its personality and character he's gone for... You don't come across as particularly attractive in that department at the moment, whether fat, thin, ugly or pretty.
Get rid of some of the venom and that chip on your shoulder. Or just getting rid of the chips may suffice as a starting point?

[Baldric]

Fat birds are expensive to run, I mean you take one out for a meal, you can guarantee she'll want a dessert, you'll need a taxi both ways 'cause she won't/can't walk, it just goes on.
:o(

[AlwaysConfused]

Fatter or thinner, uglier or prettier, I am who I am. I wouldn't be interested in someone that was not interested in me. MelenaieH86 suggests your year of birth, obviously I could be wrong. If that does make you in your late twenties then I'd say that he is not interested in you due to your immaturity and insecurity.

Work on your confidence and keep your curves. You will find your prince, just not this one

[Bbbananas]

Pmsl....
A sense of humour is what is needed, whatever your size or looks

[ummmm]

Lol @ Baldric...

[dannyk13]

People pick the person they are attracted to regardless of looks or shape.As they say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

[Bbbananas]

Baldric that has really made me smile x
Melanie - not showing off At all, but I have never had problems getting a man - and I have been skinny, curvy, was extremely pretty once, and can now look rough at times, but I do have a sense of humour and a smile - that is better than resentment and bitterness, which are not attractive.

[murraymints]

Excuse aside...Sal..how's you doing ?

[Baldric]

And another thing, you can't see a less than attractive face with the lights out, but you can still appreciate a fit body!

[AlwaysConfused]

I was waiting for an answer like that, Baldric!

[ST24]

I see you have just joined Answerbank today. Welcome, I hope you find it useful ; I've only just joined a couple of weeks ago myself.
You don't mention how old you are so I'll stick to a fairly basic answer. Men consider many things when they are looking for a mate. Good looks usually beats ugly looks but if a woman has a reputation for sexual behaviour that men like looks may not matter that much. Personality can be a decider too. Age and experience matter also.
I think it would help if you spend some time thinking over what you want and then work out the best way to get it.

[MelanieH86]

Apparently people are perfect angels when they are angry and have never insulted anyone when they feel angry. I just admitted I was out of line in the post I just made. So I don't understand why there are still more insults? I wouldn't have been so insulting if I hadn't written the post calm, but I was very very angry when I wrote it. It was basically, got home thing, started googling found this site and posted. I didn't think before I spoke. I don't usually go around saying things like that.

I'm actually a shy girl who never tells people how I really feel. I keep it bottled up. So no one knows about my temper, and no one has ever heard me call anyone what I did in that post. It's easier to say things like that when typing and posting on a forum, blog or Q and A site like this one. So no one would know "immaturity either." because they have never seen me be immature.

So now that I've admitted I was out of line, can I get advice? I see some people have given good advice, while others are being insulting.

[ummmm]

You can't 'make' someone find you attractive. There is no one type...people like different things.

[murraymints]

Mel....welcome to AB......you just need to get to know our ways and not take offence at responses you don't like.....

[Zacs-Master]

My mate loves the larger woman.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6fQnTyEniM&sns=em