Im Too Serious

[inamuddle1]

boys dont like me, they find me too serious. How do i change?

[Answerprancer]

Don't change, that would mean presenting a false image of yourself.
Go and look for some 'serious' boys who accept you as you are.

[DestressTermly]

I agree with the comment above, changing your own personality is not the way to go, and trying to force yourself to be humorous would soon backfire on you anyway. However, you can turn the tables a bit, without altering your own personality. When the boys make an effort at humour then you can show appreciation of the effort they are putting in, even if you don't find the humour particularly funny. Don't overdo it, laughing out loud when you didn't actually find it funny is a fraud, but why not try to smile or say "you're funny" or "tell me a joke"

Also it is posible to direct the humour towards things that you do find funny i.e. "hey, do you like . I think that's he/she/it's really funny".

[AlwaysConfused]

Just try to find someone with a similar sense of humour and outlook in life.

[woofgang]

never never never change yourself "so boys will like you" or so anyone else will like you for that matter. Yourself is IMPORTANT!

[TWR]

They say that about me! does it bother me! If they don't like the way I am sod them, I've come a long way in life why should I change to please other people.,

[maggiebee]

You are what you are. Don't ever try to change, there will be someone who likes you just the way you are. Anything else would be false.

[ummmm]

Serious people can come across as humourless. Humourless people are hard work.

Change only if you are not happy with the way you are.

[jomifl]

You are probably just a bit more mature than them. Some 'boys' take a long time to grow up if ever they do. :-)

[ummmm]

Jom...in my experience they never do!!

[jim360]

That's soo mean of you ummm!! *sucks thumb*

[Old_Geezer]

Never hurts to move out of your 'comfort zone' and thus become proficient at things that are presently difficult for you. So best of luck learning better social skills, they'll need practice.

That said your question comes across as very black and white. Be serious. Be not serious. As others suggest your priority would be to find someone who likes a serious friend. Lower priority would be to enhance your skill set. And you can be serious when needed and relax at other times if you want to.

[Old_Geezer]

If serious about not being serious, look up how to 'fake it until you make it'. Getting over a hurdle of, "that's not me, I'm not liking it", is half the battle, and playing a role can help. That said if you have given it a good try and continue to feel uncomfortable and fake, then know when to accept what isn't changing. But I stress again the preference to look for a boy who already lkikes you.

[inamuddle1]

Thanks. I dont think im a serious person, suppose I'm serious about meeting someone though. I'm not getting any younger and the guys I do like are obviously not serious enough... I know this. So at the end of the day, Im serious because that's what I want, they are not serious because that's what they want. I'm fed up with meeting un-serious men. :( Humffff, in a downer today. x

[happyone2]

Do you mean serious in the sense that they don't want a committed relationship ???? Pxx

[EcclesCake]

Don't change and don't look for a relationship.....the best ones find you.

[puddle-duck]

One day you will meet someone who will accept you for who you are. I agree with the others don't try and change who you are to please others, if someone doesn't like who you are, it is THEIR problem.