Am I Normal Or Not?

[Swiper]

Ok I think I already know what most of you are going to say, but I need to know what other people think. I don't think I am normal, I don't think I have any real feelings. I hate people! I hate other people so much. I hate having to interact with anyone else. I love my husband, my daughter, my mum and my nana and that's it, I don't really like my dad, brother, cousins etc. I don't understand why people go all gooey over other peoples babies. I look at other people's kids and don't see anything. I don't think they are cute or adorable. I can't look people in the eye. I hate eye contact. I hate people standing too close to me. If I can stretch out my arms and touch you, then you are too close to me. I don't care if people are dying in Africa, I don't want to donate to charity. I don't want to talk to other people. I'm only 28 but I have been like this for years. I'm surprised I found someone to love and someone who loves me. My husband is social and understands me, but I feel like a let down, I never go anywhere with my husband and daughter and I know that he would love to take me to a restaurant but the thought disgusts me. I'm not sure if I will even look back to see what people write as I'm sure it will be a tirade of abuse rather than helpful answers.

[Connemmara]

I haven't replied to you personally Swiper - but some OPs have suggested you need to see your GP - get away from that - no you don't - you are you - you must have some personality when you got a hubby and a little girl - you still have your mum and nan - so there is something NICE in you - but you need to believe in yourself - you are too young to be thinking the way you do but if you come onto this site often enough you will come to your own conclusions. Be yourself and "don't worry till worry worries you" Conn xx

[Connemmara]

sorry meant to say "don't worry worry till worry worries you" - hope you get the gist - give yourself a break. Oh I forgot Lord Whisketon and Lady Fluffington love you too.

We have OPs Whiskeyron and McFluff - they will be delighted to hear you have named your cats after them. LOL Conn

[FredPuli43]

And being a Cat Fancy type fits a normal, introvert, profile. Cats don't need walks. Get a dog, you have to walk it and you become the focus of every dog-loving passer-by, who'll talk to the dog and you. And dogs are more extrovert than cats, which suits you better.

[brandyrose]

Swiper - you sound interesting and people may well be drawn to you but its sods law if you hate them!

I can relate to Jeza too minus the cats and a few others on here too. I dont hate people but I am impossible to pin down and I just find it very difficult to get too close to people or let them get too close to me. You cant like everyone though. Considering alot of so called "normal" people do spend time on family etc., and if thats not you, that is for you to decide. I dont know whats up re hating people - hate is a strong word I guess but that thinking must have been on bypass w.r.t now husband when you first met him so maybe you are just particular! or he was just clever and got past your guard.
I do not like people standing behind me.
I have alot of acquaintances (no friends) who want to hug me all the time (I completely hate it and I do blame myself because I'm not honest with them, I dont tell them. I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings and this is wrong on some level I know + I'm afraid they will think I have a problem if I create a fuss and well I sort of do have a problem! with them hugging me). You sound pretty straight and people at least know what you are about and it is good to be true to yourself. I went out with this guy once only because he was pretty cold and I felt really comfortable around him. He was also extremely tidy and everything had to be in its place. (I'm quite relaxed and I like dogs) so he went on to tell me that he couldn't understand why people didn't eat dogs and what was all the fuss about - he couldn't envisage ever in his life having a dog but strangely (I wasn't letting it go!) he would be ok with a cat. I was contemplating some kind of initiation ceremony re his problem with dogs..but actually he was OK and cats were his thing but in a million years you couldn't have swayed him on dogs - he absolutely hated them. When people accept you it really is so nice whatever you are like. As Salvador Dali once said "Do not fear perfection, you will never achieve it"

[Connemmara]

Brandy - that was a saga and half at this time of night - hope it registers.

Am now thinking (joking) that maybe some of my serious answers are best for OPs in the morning.

Anyway Swiper - you have had some lovely contributions tonight and if you do have a confidante in your hubby you could tell him the lovely things that were said. Albeit if it was me (I am on this site on my own where I can relieve myself of just like terrible thoughts, misdemeanours, blah blah - I keep them to myself) (MY PRIVATE SPACE). That is me Connemmara (the lady from Gloccamara) - At 28 you don't realise how much you have given and remember what you have achieved. -OMG) excuse me - just have smelt a little fart from Mr Harv (the dog in the next bedroom) oh my Gawd - (ie my computer is one of my bedrooms) - he is waiting like a bloody guard dog in my bedroom. Swiper on a tangent here - cos of this bloody terrible weather Harv and I are together too much so when I need to go shopping etc as what happened today wont let me out of his sight. You think you have problems. Get a grip lady and be grateful for what you have.

Come on this site tomorrow oops (sorry today) if you want another question answered - everybody will welcome you with gusto!!!!! (THE WIND THE WIND IS BLOWING HIGH - THE RAINS COME SCATTERING FROM THE SKY) just a wee song we sang when we skipped maybe a 100 years ago. Lighten up kid. Sing a song to your little daughter (even if you think you cant sing) - it has been my sanity and I can't sing believe me - also put on a bit of music from Hugo Duncan even when you are own - have a wee private dance. That helped me together after my mum died. I am much older than you - but you need to get music and dance and out-of-tunes songs in action. Even with your beloved mum nana. Just trying to help you out here Swiper cos when I was 28 the world was my oyster and when I turned 33 I lost the oyster when I lost my most beloved partner and mother and had to carry on working in a fog.

I have a bloody cheek saying to Brandy re his saga - now you got mine - Ah well. see ya in the morning. Con - give all the OPs love to hubby, daughter, mum, nana, Lord Whisketon and Lady Fluffington. Enjoy them all. Immediate family is all that matters. Oh me I think I have written a saga too - sorry Swiper - Goodnight sweet dreams .