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Asked out a girl who works for a company we work with. She said she was busy on the dates I suggested. I left it ten days and asked again (by e-mail)- she never replied. By chance about a week later, I picked up a colleague's phone - it was the same girl ringing with a work query- she sounded really sheepish.
Yesterday, the girl rang me up about work, and acted as if nothing had happened. I was professional and sorted out the thing she needed doing, but just felt dismayed she acts as if I never asked her for a date..
How do I cope with being blanked? Want to still be professional but feel a bit hurt. Any tips?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Poor old Tock. And I kinda get the idea that he'd already got the hint without us rubbing it in! :-(
I got absolutely letched on by a horrible guy who used to live in halls with me. This happened earlier this week by the way. He took my phone off me, called himself and then stored my number. He even had to ask my name as he'd forgotten!!! But he'd already shouted "you're gorgeous" at me! *cringes* He's texted me since and I have just totally ignored him. I let him take my number because I was so embarassed that he was chatting me up SO unsubtly and very loudly in the middle of a library!!
Rather than spouting that at random (it feels better to have it off my chest), and I am CERTAINLY not suggesting you were that bad, my point is that women who are "flattered but not interested" often don't have a clue what to say!!! We (I don't mean all women! I mean women who react in the same was as I do to these situations!) want to be polite but we're just wimps!!
Pretending nothing happened is a way of trying to spare your feelings. Even if it doesn't have that effect! :-S
Continue to be professional and don't make a big effort to let her know when you get together with your next more gorgeous, more lovely, more successful, more rich, more intelligent girlfriend!!!! (A woman you WILL find!) :-)
Sorry Tock, in the absence of a response from you I will add my twopenn'orth. DO NOT contact her again, if she was interested she would contact you. More contact makes you seem desperate and will not make you feel better. Do as the sunflowers and turn your face to the Sun, use your energy on finding someone who is interested in you and dont dwell on this situation. I am an old hand at rejections and it can be hard until you stop taking it personally as I used to. Stay professional because it will make you feel good about how you conduct yourself. Good luck for the next one.