How Do I Arrange Contact For Our Chikdren And Their Dad?

[sheribee]

Hi everyone, my separation has been coming for s while and I finally told my husband to leave 3 weeks ago. He has depresion and anxiety has done for ovr 6 years now.
He was mentally abusive thoi he was not aware he was due to his illness, he was awful to our children which is why I finally told him to go.
He is staying with his mum, and does not have the kids there as his mum cant handke them all for long, her house is not child friendly really and she cant handle the noise and mess tho I dont think its much at all. So he comes to us to spend time with them.
Now I am struggling, I work 2 days and 1 night in a pub plus run my 2 new businesses which is very hard, I get no me time and never stop, house is a mess from jobs left half done, and the 20 month old wont sleep, screams for hours. I need a break but im at a loss as to what to do, and i feel the chikdren need to kniw whars hapoening, when they will see him and a srabke routine.
We are getting on well, but I am quite resentful tge fact he goes to hus mums gets everything done for him, meals, clotges washed etc and I am left dealing with everything and alk the mess to our lives his illness has left.

[deepseadiver]

Sorry I cant give any constructive advice but I did notice that when you type you hit the K key instead of the L quite a lot.

[Cloverjo]

Is he working?
Can he stay at your house and look after the children and finish your household jobs while you go away for a short break? Even a day or night out with a friend, if you can't manage any more than that.

[atalanta]

Some towns have contact centres, where the children's contact can be supervised. Ask the nearest Citizens Advice Bureau