Another Question From The Heart...!

[Scarlett]

How did you and your OH get it together? Who made the first move? Did you plant a seed first, leap on him at a party, or wait for years and years in vain hope? And what is the best way to let someone know you like them, without embarrassment or losing a friendship- if there is one?!

[Old_Geezer]

I had asked her to join me in a couple of evenings in the pub. Fun thing really. Then a short while later, I got jumped on :-) when I came around to hers, to fix a light I think.

You are always taking a risk, if it results in a lost friendship, then there was something wrong with the friendship to start with. Just make it known you are interested, if you are. Can only say "yes" or "no".

[Svejk]

/// Did you plant a seed first///
No, I took her to the pictures first but then I'm old-fashioned.

[mallyh]

i was a wren oh a sailor out on the town, i fell into the gutter and he was looking up at me .lol ,no seriously we went around with a group of sailors and wrens and realised one night we wanted to be together ah!!!!

[ummmm]

We've known each other since were very young. We've always been friends, went to school together, mutual friends etdc. When I split with my ex we started spending more and more time together. A mutual friend (my cousin) asked me if I was aware that he was in love with me, I wasn't, so I asked him if she was right. He said yes...

And that was the start...

I didn't look at him 'like that' because he was my mate...but it didn't take me long to realise that he has all the traits I admire in other people. It was just a matter of getting over the fact of doing rudies with my friend. It didn't take long. I think we're as happy now as day one.

Oh...the first move was kind of both of us.

[Sqad]

OH?.....I struggle with this term....do you mean husband, wife, partner, mistress,.....past or present or both?

[Butterbun]

Mine is the boring stuff.. introduced to him by the boy next door who was one of his friends. I was 18, he was 21. After a couple of months of refusing dates, I said ok, we went to the pictures and got on really well. We're still together.

[Kathyan]

I started writing to a soldier after I had seen an article in the Sun for people to write and send cards to the troops who would be away from home over Christmas. One of the soldiers wrote back and we sent letters to each other for a few weeks and then he came back to UK for 10 days and we met up and got on really well. To cut a long story short we married that year and have been together for nearly 18 years!

[Mamyalynne]

He was ten years older than me and home from USA for 3 weeks to visit his Mum and tie up some legal stuff, he approached me in a bar and asked me out for dinner.

We never spent a day apart after that for 35 years - he never did go back.

[Prudie]

I'd been dumped (had my heart broken actually) and used to go and chat to the guy who sat next to him in his office about my woes and he (my OH) started earwigging. He then began to e-mail me and that became a 5 times a day habit. That was the seed! I'd known him for 10 years and thought he was weird and wasn't in the slightest interested originally. All that was 15 years ago.

[Baldric]

30 years ago on Halloween, she came into my Local with a group of friends.
Being the shy retiring type I am, I waited at least 5 minutes before making a (very elegant) move. We've been Married 27 years + now.

[Scarlett]

Sqad- either! All! How did you make that move. Or how did she make that move?

[Sqad]

OK.........I was going to a meeting in Dublin and i asked her if she would like to come with me and she said yes.
Mind you I had read the "signals" for about a week or so before.

[ummmm]

Please Scarlett, please don't go there....

[Old_Geezer]

Big smile at Svejk.
How did I miss that one ;-)

[Old_Geezer]

"After a couple of months of refusing dates, I said ok,"
There you go, "No" doesn't mean "No" after all ;-)

[chaptazbru2]

I met my latest bloke (very new relationship) whilst dog walking in the park and our dogs get on well too !

[Mamyalynne]

Scarlett the chemistry was immediate and mutual - unlike your current platonic situation.

Trying to compare one experience over another won't give you the answer you desire I'm afraid.


Have you drawn a big breath and told him exactly how you feel?

[ummmm]

But Mamy...would the chemistry have been the same had your relationship started off as friends?

[RATTER15]

We met on an art forum, we were both exhibiting art at the same exhibition, we got along well, so I asked if I could take her to dinner, she accepted.

[B00]

He was my manager at work :-)

I did.

Leapt on him on our 2nd date.

Tell 'em or show 'em.