Another Question From The Heart...!

[Scarlett]

How did you and your OH get it together? Who made the first move? Did you plant a seed first, leap on him at a party, or wait for years and years in vain hope? And what is the best way to let someone know you like them, without embarrassment or losing a friendship- if there is one?!

[Mamyalynne]

Possibly not - it isn't impossible to progress as you have shown Ummmm but Scarlett has to make her feelings clear or be forever in a quandary.

[ummmm]

Oh...I certainly agree with that although I'm not sure we would have progressed if I wasn't so nosey and asked him outright :-)

[Mamyalynne]

Faint heart and all that - works for us ladies too.

[gness]

1st MrG.....I loved The Kinks....a friend pointed him out one day and said he liked me......he looked like Ray Davies......hooked....☺

2nd MrG.....His story was that we were sitting together at a meeting...I asked to borrow his pencil and promptly snapped it in half....he thought I was peculiar....but he liked my hair.
We got put together for a car rally (I think he wangled it).....he found me peculiarly interesting and loved my hair.....I wouldn't let him finish the rally til we had solved all the clues...by the time we did the food was off and we were poisoned......
He was very ill so I sent a get well card.......☺

3rd MrG (to be).....I am perfecting my leaping skills and don't have years left to wait in vain hope......so I will let him know without embarrassment...... ☻

[chrissa1]

I was going out with one of his friends and on the way to the pub one night, he jumped out of the car in front of me, dashed back to my car and said he really, really liked me and would I go out with him.

I finished with his friend and we were married for nearly 35 years until he died, three years ago.

[woofgang]

he was dating my older sister, not seriously. The first time I met him, we looked at each other and that was that. I was 14 at the time. He stayed a friend of the family till I was 17 and then he asked me out. We married when I was 21. we would have been married 40 years this year but he died in 2011. i am not sure you can change platonic for erotic without risking embarassment and loss of the platonic.

[ummmm]

I hope you're dealing with it okay, Woof, still early days :-(

Changing from platonic to erotic I think depends on the relationship. You'd have to be pretty close to be able to deal with rejection and keep the friendship intact....in time.

[Bazile]

Well , i was selling insurance ( apart from my day job ) - i sold a policy to her sister and asked her for a referall - her sister gave me her name and contact number .

I duly made an appointment and turned up at her house , to be greeted by this beautiful young female ( and i'm not just saying beautiful because she is my other half ).

Anyway , before i left i asked her for a date and gave her my number ( in hope more than anything else -( never really thinking that she would call me ) .

Anyway , out of the blue some weeks later ( to my suprise , cos i had kind of forgotton about it ) she called me .

And , as they say , the rest is history

[mrs_overall]

A socially inept friend of mine was going on a first date and at the last minute she said she wouldn't go unless I came along.
The man in question was equally wimpy and asked his friend Mr O to go with him.
The four of us met up in the dullest pub imaginable. The couple on the date didn't speak to each other, while me & Mr O got on like a house on fire.
After 30 minutes or so we left the other couple to it and cleared off to a more lively venue. The rest is history.

[kvalidir]

I used to go to his house to get stuff from the farm shop etc and noticed him. Went shooting there a couple of times, got to know him, helped with a wedding he was hosting when he was let down and a couple of other times with other things, went to the same pub as him and finally told him I liked him. Got ignored and avoided for about 3 weeks, then he asked me to the Battle Proms. Everything has been lovely since, and I think we work very well together.
If you ask your interest out to something that could be considered platonic you don't risk looking stupid, so just lunch or some other light activity and then he has the option to take things further if he likes.

[jno]

cleared off to a more lively venue.

Whitby.

[jno]

but to give a proper answer, I made the first move, which is no help if you don't know whether I'm male or female - but somebody has to make the first move, risking rejection and all, otherwise it's platonic for ever. And if you don't want it to stay that way it had better be you, since he hasn't.

[Bazile]

jno - is there a reason why you dont want to disclose your gender ?

[andy-hughes]

The present Mrs Hughes and I both worked in the same nightclub - she was a barmaid, I was a DJ.

I chatted to her, and thought her quite sophisticated because she was married with two daughters. We became friends.

She was (and still is) attracted to my voice - over a microphone and in conversation. She noticed me seriously when I appeared one lunch time (the club opened for lunch for business people) and I was in a suit because I'd been to a funeral.

We started going for coffee and drives after work, and one night she told me she could really fall for me. I told her not to do that - she didn't listen.

We went out together for six years, and got married, and we are heading for twenty-nine years of marriage.

[snags]

^ Just curious: how does being married with two daughters make someone sophisticated?

Me: we chatted on AB for a while. I had a trip to Thailand planned and we wanted to keep in touch off AB so exchanged email addresses. Continued to chat, discovered we had a lot in common and similar tastes in music. Decided to go see a band together. Met 'face to face' in Central London for drinks and eats. She then went to Australia for a month but we kept in touch and got together on her return. That was around 4 years ago. We now live together.

[Prudie]

Awww, I had no idea you two met on here

[snags]

Yep... no big secret. We also have a four month old son!

[Bazile]

snags , who on AB is your partner ?

[Prudie]

Oh congrats! I'd sort of seen some hints but nothing formal so wasn't sure.

[scorpiojo]

Is it CD? (Huge apologies if I'm wrong)