Death Of A Spouse

[Jennykenny]

Does anyone have simplified list of things to do when a spouse dies.
I don't mean contacting the undertaker etc, - the hospital has given me a booklet on that. I am thinking of things that perhaps get missed in the general manner of things.
Thanks.

[gness]

Jenny...I'm so sorry for your loss.....xx

I can't really recall what's in the hospital booklet but for banking your bank should have a bereavement department to help you there and also if you have things in joint names.....car....insurances etc..they will need to be informed...

Bumping this may bring more advice...

Take care....Gx

[Peter Pedant]

Jenny this is awful

I am so sorry for the loss. My prayers are withyou

[Peaspeculiars]

Jenny, I am so very sorry to hear this - My sincere condolences xx

When my OH's father passed away a few months ago, his mum contacted her solicitor for initial advice - The best advice she received was that there is no need to rush.
The solicitors advised that she contact the local tax office and start from there - this particular tax office connected with the rest of the council and informed every department of his passing and were extremely helpful.
Other general things to consider apart from pensions and savings accounts are things such as TV licence, direct debits, email accounts, club subscriptions that he may have belonged to.

Take time to grieve first Jenny, and take up any offers of help from your friends and family right now - I know my MIL thought she could cope and sort it all out on her own but it does help to have people around to help you if you can bear it. Such sad news, sorry Jenny xx

[Tilly2]

I can't add any further advice but I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you are coping with this. My condolences to you.

[FrogNog]

Contact all member of the family
Look for paperwork
Take time
Accept help.

[choux]

There is so much to think of at times like this. I am sure others can add to the list:

Bank and direct debits/standing orders/HP agreements
Employer/pension fund/Income Tax
Utilities
Insurances and savings schemes
Subscriptions/membership - from unions to periodicals, associations.
DVLC and any other licences

Kindest regards to you.

[marval]

I am sorry to hear your news.

You have had some good advice.

Don't rush things, take time for yourself.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[SirOracle]

Very sorry to hear of your loss Jenny.
In addition to the info.already given it is advisable to make copies(3or4) of the Death Certificate as various people need this ,undertaker,solicitor, DWP,insurer etc.

[Grandma_Yiddo]

So very sorry to hear your news,will light an extra candle when I say my prayers tonight.

[Greedyfly]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I haven't had to go through this so I cannot advise but ease know we are thinking of you.

[Greedyfly]

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[Svejk]

Sorry for your loss, Jenny.

[Mamyalynne]

Jenny, firstly my deepest sympathies to you.


All the advice above is spot on - the main one is , to not try to rush.

Next tackle anything involving money going out or coming in,get a notebook and tick off as you work through each organisation.


Trust me you will miss some and discover them later, I certainly did - but they were very understanding.

Take care.

[Ouzel]

Just to add to previous posts - your Registrar may offer a 'Tell Us Once' service and will contact, on your behalf, the DWP, DVLA, Passport Office, HM Revenue and Customs etc. as well as other Council Departments e.g. Council Tax and Electoral Registration.

I'm so sorry for your loss - take care.

[DTCwordfan]

I add my sympathies as well, not an easy time. Remember there's always someone on in AB, even 'the bats' at 2.30 pm

[gness]

Jenny.....I don't know your age but something that was helpful for me was a Bereavement Pack that I was advised to collect from Job Centre Plus...xx

[Jennykenny]

I'm overwhelmed by your kindress. All strangers but so helpful. Thank you.

[Mamyalynne]

Jenny,when I was in your position six years ago this place saved my sanity.

I mean that from my heart.♥

[Ann]

Jenny - my thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless x

When my Mum died in May, our local independent undertaker was the most caring and compassionate person I had ever met. He and his wife took great care of us, told us everything we needed to know and treated us (and Mum) as if we were part of their own family. We could ask them anything and they are still there for us now as we have kept in constant touch. I know not all undertakers are like this, but do ask them, maybe they will sit with you and go through all the practical things you need to do, but please don't rush, take it at your own pace as you feel capable of doing. Will be thinking of you x

[Ann]

Mamya's advice is great - I too kept a notebook and headed each page with the Utility companies or organisations, pension companies etc. I kept note of when I informed them and their tel numbers and contact names. It's so easy when you are upset to get confused who you rang and when etc. My little notebook has proved invaluable as I'm still dealing with various issues even 6 months on ... and refer to it often.