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is being 25 and single a bad thing?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I've been in your position and know it's hard but you have to end the relationship if it's not what you want. It's so tempting to stay when you want to get married and settled down but imagine if you had all those things with the man you're with now: you'd be even more unhappy because by being married it's harder to get out of, and with children putting additional strain on your relationship (the lack of sleep alone can make the happiest of couples bicker), you'd then feel guilty leaving because of taking the children away from their father.
You're lucky that you haven't got any of these ties at the moment and you ARE still young enough to get the life you want, but it has to be with the right man.
Good luck, stay strong and remember that if you're unhappy enough to want to split and your problems can't be resolved, you're wasting both your and his time and sacrificing both of your happiness.
Lots of love x
Hiya splodge, I go with Lissy on this one. I think you would be committing a grave error in trying to start a family with your current b/f for :
a) You feel you're getting too old
b) This is the wrong basis to start a family.
I like lissy, would say to you get out of the relationship you are in now look for a chappy that you actually love and feel comfortable around and then ask yourself have you both got the happiness between yourselves which will be enhanced with the addition of a child.There are too many "bad relationships"around that involve the seperation of partners but the real sufferers are the children.
So get out of the relationship you are in look for a decent guy and lets face it you're ONLY 25,still young and plenty of time to start a family and buy a house. Hope it didn't seem like i was on my high horse :)
Good luck which ever way you decide xx
I've noticed that people seem to think that 30 is the cut-off age for achieving all the things they hope to achieve. But why? It's only a number and doesn't mean anything. There is no rush. The most important thing is your happiness. Do you want to spend your life with a man you don't really want to be with? Please don't stay with him out of fear.
splodge- I'm 25 and single, and I haven't even started thinking of any of those things yet! There is no right age to do stuff- it'll just happen when it happens, and you have to accept that.
My stepsister is exactly the same age as me, married and trying for a baby. She went out with her husband for 8 years before marrying him. I haven't been out with anyone for 8 minutes yet, let alone 8 years, but who knows, I could meet someone tomorrow and know right away he's right for me...
Calm down, and don't follow others. There is no right or wrong- just go with the flow!
PS: 25 and single? Sounds like you and I are in an envious position, quite frankly!
I'm 25 and single (for 5 years). None of my mates are married and they definitely don't have kids unless they're all keeping massive secrets from me. If I had 30 down as some sort of cut off point I'd probably just sink into a massive depression! Age is nonsense, happiness is important, so just try to put yourself in positions where you can enjoy your life to the fullest.
Then I met my now husband at age 28 (my age). At age 29 we were living together in the house we had bought. By nearly age 31 (Nov 2003) I gave birth to a beautiful little girl who is nearly 3 and in September 2003 we got wed.
There's plenty of time for you to meet the man of your dreams and do your settling down thing and it will happen when you least expect it.
Good luck with your decision xx
Once more I find myself on the 'single' scene. I'm 29, with my really nothing but debt and psychological scarring to show for my years.
However, I compiled a list of things to do before I'm 30 a few years back and not one thing on that list involved family, relationships, employment, money or commitment.
There are so many things to do out there that it's a shame we have to be of a certain age to do them. The youngsters are growing up faster and the oldies are getting older later in life.
I've dated women older than myself (by quite a few years) and whilst they're settled, they've missed out on bits of life that I wouldn't have turned down for the world.
You're still young - go with your head and your heart will follow.
Well im 25 and single and here here is all i can say. Yes I have times where i wish i had someone special but i have good friends and family instead. Personally, i like being single because it makes me feel more powerful (please avoid any Spice Girl power jokes!) I get to go out and flirt and have a great time and dont have to worry about upsetting my boyfriend. Some of my friends are single and some are attached and to be completely honest the single ones have more fun and seem happier in general. Im all for getting married one day and having babies but i refuse to rush into that because its a serious step in life, one which i believe will just happen for me one day so i dont panic about it. You should have fun and enjoy life while you are young. Like dribfunk said, go with you head and your heart will follow. Makes you think huh?