So confused

[feelap]

2 weeks ago, i received a txt message from my pakistani girlfriend telling me that she is getting married and that has been decided by her parents. Im not pakistani and her family do not know about us. I am so devastated and hurt, but more so because now shes totally cut me off from her life like i never even existed. I've been with her for a year now and we believed that our future would be with each other. She is not muslim so its not because of that (shes christian) I have so many conflicting feelings inside me about her and dont know which ones to follow. I can feel depression building up and i have nothing to fight it with. Please help me.

[mrspswayze]

Move on

[dilligaf]

Thank your lucky stars. You are well out of it. Start anew. If you feel depression building up go to the local. A few pints with the lads and meet a girl without attached problems.

[HAnn521]

With my sincere sympathy for you, I remind you of this...how would a long-distance relationship, in which you only have text messages to communicate, last anyhow??

Trust me...you will find someone else and it will be much more "meant to be"...

[GucciGal]

hi feelap, you must be feeling a bit lost right now. Please don't let it overtake your life. Keep busy, watch films, listen to music, go to the gym, whatever you need to do to make you feel stronger (a little bit every day) and when you understand her reasons and feel OK about what's happended then you can move on. Good luck mate. x

[Hermia]

Poor you, I'm afraid you are just going to have to try and move on. And don't blame her too much. I have a few friends who've had arranged marriages where they were given very little choice (including an Indian Christian girl). Remember she may not even have known it was going to happen. A girl from my school was taken on what she thought was a holiday to Pakistan when she was 16 and when she got there she discovered she was going to her wedding. The reason she has cut you off totally is probably because she'll get into trouble if her family/husband find out she's talking to you.

[feelap]

Thank you everyone for the responses. Its def made me think more about things. Just to clariofy a few things about us. We had very normal relationship but kept it quiet from her parents and i understood why, nontheless we acted, behaved and talked like a very normal couple. We went out and talked and listened to each other so we didnt just communicate in text message.