If You Are Married,do You Allow Your Spouse To Have Friends Of The Opposite Gender?

[faco21]

My boundaries with my wife(before she left me) is not having opposite gender gender friends because it leads to nothing besides trouble.I think it's good wisdom not to have friends of the opposite gender after marriage.I don't allow my wife to text another man unless they are family members and I don't allow my wife to email another man unless they are family members.I don't see what's the point for married people to have any kind of friendship with someone of the opposite gender outside of family members.

[Svejk]

snigger. ;o)

[-Talbot-]

Don't tell me...she ran off with another woman?

[jackthehat]

///Before she left me///

It worked well, then?

[ummmm]

No wonder she left you.

[-Talbot-]

Your first mistake was letting her have a phone...what sort of man are you?

[Bathsheba]

I agree with Talbot,...that was just asking for trouble...

[Svejk]

lonely?

[gingejbee]

faco...you seem to have a REAL PROBLEM with members of your family having any sort of contact with anybody else. Why?

[andy-hughes]

I am married, and one of the first rules we agreed on is that I don't 'allow' my wife to do anything. She is over the age of majority, and can converse with whom she likes, when she likes, how she likes.

It goes without saying that the same applies to me.

Thirty-five years together - twenty-nine of them happily married.

Do you see a lesson there faco21?

[Mamyalynne]

You had a huge amount of response to your last post, read that again and you'll see the general view.

I was married for 37 years and only death parted us , we both had friends of both sexes and no problems.

[stuey]

It's not "gender": it's "SEX".

[EcclesCake]

I'll ask my husband if I can reply to your question.

[Bathsheba]

very wise Eccles ;)

[Buenchico]

Anyone who thinks that marriage will permit them to 'allow' (or to 'disallow') actions by their spouse shouldn't be getting married in the first place, as they clearly neither trust nor respect their partner. Without both trust and respect marriage becomes meaningless.

[andy-hughes]

faco21 - I am not sure whether you live in 2015 and this is a clever wind-up on a slow afternoon,

or you live in 1945 and this is one of the many many reasons why your wife left you.

Please feel free to enlighten us which it is - in your own time, which you will have more of, now that you are not monitoring your wife's communications any more!

[Baldric]

Why would I even try and stop her, she is a strong independent woman with her own job, her own money and her own mind. We are in the main both friends with each others friends of both genders, and there has never been a problem. She often goes away for a weekend to visit Family and it's not unusual for one of her female mates to pop in for a coffee and see if I'm alright.
You have a very strange outlook imo!

[trt]

Are you a Muslim by any chance?

[Bazile]

You didn't do a lot of allowing , did you .

Why did you allow her to leave you ?

[gness]

Dammit, Baldric.....you didn't tell me I had competition....:-(

[-SharonA-]

Oh god!!! He/she is back!!!
Faco, my hubby has loads of lady friends.I am aware of them and have no problem with this. We have been married 35 years and if he was gonna run off with one of his lady friends, he would have done so by now!!
Being married does not mean you own someone or stop them from living their life!!!