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My ex sent me a text saying he has things to say to me and if he writes them down will i read them. I said yes. He then said he'll 'put something together soon'. This was 5 days ago and I've not heard anything since. He finished the relationship 3 months ago. I still see him about as we work together. What is he playing at?
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I would be inclined to ignore this.
The reasons could be various - he thought bettter of it / he's still working on it / he's waiting to see if you get in touch ..... and so on.
If you are accepting that the relationship is over, then there is nothing to be gained in picking over the issues that split you up in the first place. If you are keen to start up again, ask him to meet you, and talk it over.
Maybe he's just finding it really hard to put into words what he wants to say to you. Some people just aren't good at expressing themselves that way. Just give him a bit of time. But at the moment, put it to the back of your mind, get on with life as normal, and if he is playing games, he'll soon see they aren't working. Then if the letter appears, it appears. Good Luck
My ex did something similar to me recently.He ended the relationship about a year ago,but for 6 mnths after that we still were in close contact as we live next door to one another.We took a total break about 6 mnths ago and have no contact other than if we bump into each other on the street.About a month ago I was on holidays and for the first 3 days he texted and phoned every day and said when I got home he wanted to have a chat with me as he wanted to apologise properly for all that had happened in the past.When I got home I waited for 2 weeks,and wound myself up about what he was thinking.He finally came over for a coffee one night and as he stood up to go muttered that he was sorry for all the times he'd hurt me.That was it.One sentence.I just said to forget it and closed the door.I'm just ignoring him in future.I'm with I_Tried on this one,hes playing an emotional game.If what he had to say was of any importance you'd have heard it by now and he should have more respect than to leave you dangling like this.
Did this text arrive after he'd been out on the lash?
He may have been having a 'drunken remorse' thing. This is the precise reason I think mobile phones should have a breathaliser on them!
If you are really intrigued about it perhaps a gentle reminder. Perhaps he's written it and not had the guts to give it to you?
However, I would be inclined to forget about it and treat him like the message never happened. That way he will feel comfortable around you, you keep your dignity and he may bring it up again.
Good luck!
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