Boyfriend Is Active On Online Dating Sites

[wan_amri]

My boyfriend and i are in serious relationship and we often discuss and plan to spend our lives together forever and live in together. But why does my boyfriend is active on many online dating sites?

[Mamyalynne]

Because he isn't ready for commitment, keep him as a boyfriend if you wish but don't make long term plans just yet.

[wan_amri]

To respond to your answer .. It is actually my boyfriend who has big plan for our togetherness in future. We have been a couple for 18 months now.

[Mamyalynne]

Well wan, it is of course your choice but it wouldn't sit happily with me.


If he wants to be with you why is he theoretically still looking?

[wan_amri]

Your question is actually my question too .. Why is he still looking and chatting up women on those sites? He is giving me mixed messages. Because of that i m pretty much confused.

[cupid04]

Have you tried asking him why he needs to look?

[wan_amri]

Hi cupid ..i ve tried twice but he denied it and exploded to me as if he was very innocent. I knew he has been active online dating from his web history

[cupid04]

If you stay with him you'll always be wondering if you can trust him. He's whittling away at any confidence you've got and I think deep down you know you can do better. Move on unless he can prove without a doubt that he's willing to stop looking at dating sites.

[joko]

i think you know the answer already. there is nothing anyone here can tell you - we dont know you, or him.
if he is really still online dating then he is not really settling with you - he is saying what he thinks you want to hear so that you behave in the way he wants while he wants you to.
some men, and women, have no conscience and happily use a person until they no longer want or need them
move on, sooner rather than later. do not waste time with someone who clearly does not see you as his futue

[wan_amri]

Thank you everybody. Your responses really help me take my decision. I really appreciate your advises and suggestion.

[murraymints]

as above...not only is he deceptive he is lying to you..get rid now ..it will end badly

[Sqad]

What do you mean by "being active?"
Is he just communicating or is he actually meeting other women?
If it is the former, then it is not necessarily a big deal, a matter of fun or excitement...........very common in men ( and women), but if it is the latter, then if may be a big deal and that needs addressing.

[murraymints]

morning Sqad xx think the "intent" is just as bad as actually meeting ...lying about it also is not a good start in any relationship..

[CrapAtCryptics]

if you cant trust him he`s definitely not a keeper - you dont encourage him to like you by going through his history, even if he is wrong, but i`m with the dump him group.

[Sqad]

Morning Murray............I can't agree..........they may be different situations........different intentions.

[bhg481]

I'm with murraymints - the denial and dishonesty is the killer for me.

[Old_Geezer]

I can understand curiosity, but denial in the face of evidence sounds rather off. Maybe he's not basically honest with folk. Is that the sort of relationship you are ok with ?

[whiskeryron]

If you are as you say in no doubt that he is actively indulging in on line dating see if you can copy his web history & confront him with the evidence.