Why Does She Ask Me This?

[shesmylover24]

Sometimes I tell her she acts like she's in love with me. She says she has never fell in love and neither have I. But sometimes she thinks that I am in love with her but I'm actually not. She has asked me what would it take in order for me to fall in love with her. She asked that the first or second month we got together. She asked me if I was in love plenty of times. But yet she's not in love yet. Why the hell does she want me to fall in love with her but Yet she is not in love yet. Shes keeps saying once I tell her when I am in love then I will know if she is or not.

[rsvp]

opening personal question from newbie? alarm bells! happy to be proven wrong though.

[shesmylover24]

I actually do love this woman.

[fiction-factory]

"she thinks that I am in love with her but I'm actually not"

"I actually do love this woman."

It's confusing this love thing.

If your first statement is true then tell her. If the second is true then wait and see what happens.

Is she the one who used to be your lecturer/tutor?

[shesmylover24]

Being in love with someone is Totally different from loving someone as a person. I love this woman but we only been dating for 4 months so therefore I am not IN LOVE.

[Tilly2]

Tell her that, then. Goodness, you must have some interesting conversations, you two.

[scorpiojo]

Any alcohol?

[Tilly2]

I have some white wine, Jo. Not opened it yet. Would you like a glass, to calm you down?

[scorpiojo]

..that would be lovely, thank you, Tilly ;o)

[Captain2]

Doesn't take much to get you two reaching for the bottle does it? ;0)))

[scorpiojo]

;o)

[Tilly2]

Well, we are going to share it, Capt. Would you like a glass?

[Captain2]

Oh go on then Tilly, you've sweet talked me into it. Cheers! (Feeling any better today?)

[Peter Pedant]

Yeah I did this
I love you but I am not in love with you thing
I gave her the boot

[Tilly2]

I'm still on the Lem Sip but the wine might do me good.

[Togo]

TBH you both sound a tad "needy". Just tell her you need a week or two away, she will find someone pdq who "loves" her instantly, and you will find that you hate her. Job done. The real question is whether you joined on Friday hoping to shock or annoy AB members. No chance. Sort your head and come back when you are ready for us, never mind her.

[scorpiojo]

Are you not feeling any better, Tilly?

[-Talbot-]

You're definitely not in love ... it's just a silly phase you're going through

[scorpiojo]

:o))

[Tilly2]

Not really, Jo. Been in bed for most of the day, again.
The earache's gone though, so that's a blessing.

Anyway SML, good luck with your conundrum.

[Mamyalynne]

Don't get me wrong, don't think you've got it made- take time it will work out.