Why Does She Ask Me This?

[shesmylover24]

Sometimes I tell her she acts like she's in love with me. She says she has never fell in love and neither have I. But sometimes she thinks that I am in love with her but I'm actually not. She has asked me what would it take in order for me to fall in love with her. She asked that the first or second month we got together. She asked me if I was in love plenty of times. But yet she's not in love yet. Why the hell does she want me to fall in love with her but Yet she is not in love yet. Shes keeps saying once I tell her when I am in love then I will know if she is or not.

[Svejk]

There's no answer to that.

[Old_Geezer]

All sounds rather self centred and childish to me.
Enjoy the relationship regardless, decide for yourself how you feel and what you want or are happy to put up with.

[MallyJ]

Real love takes a while to grow...it is not the same as finding someone beautiful or lusting for their body. Both of you need to enjoy what you have and not push for more. I wonder if she is insecure.

[Peter Pedant]

ah - star crossed lovers !
what is it like to be young !

[Old_Geezer]

Yeah, I've forgotten too PP.

[shesmylover24]

She says she is not insecure. She doesn't get jealous. But I'm not pushing anything. I'm not rushing to fall in love. She is the one who keeps thinking I am and when I tell her I am not I think it kind of hurt her feelings.

[murraymints]

I'd back off..needy and clingy come to mind

[Prudie]

You can't rush or influence yourself or others to 'fall in love', it happens on it own and may very well never happen.

[MallyJ]

As I said there should be no rushing or pushing.. which she is apparently doing. I think she iss very insecure and is trying to make you commit to something that you may want to do in the future but not yet. This is of some concern and if I was you I would finish this relationship. She sounds very young and so do you.

[shesmylover24]

Actually she's 30 years older than me. I'm 23.

[scorpiojo]

Ask her

[Tilly2]

:-)

[Prudie]

So she's 53 and you're 23? Of course she's going to be insecure and probably with good reason.

[melv16]

Older women are perfect. They don't tell, they don't swell and they're grateful :-)

[Tilly2]

My ankles well, sometimes. :-(

[Tilly2]

^ swell!

[fiction-factory]

Don't swell? If you mean get pregnant I'm pretty sure it 's not likely to be an issue between two girls/ladies

[melv16]

Whoops, I didn't realise she munched rugs:-)

[MallyJ]

If you do not love this much older woman why are you bothering at all? And yes she is insecure...

[Prudie]

Am I just old and cynical when I think OP must be peeved she hasn't shocked us yet?