My Friend Is Depressed

[sclarity95]

First, sorry about my poor english.

One of my best friend is depressed, but she won't tell me what’s wrong.
It must be serious.
She’s not ill, and it’s not about her family. It’s something with her.

My guesses:
1, she cheated her husband
2, she got pregnant and she had had a miscarriage or she still pregnant but she will abort the pregnancy

I can not think of anything else.

Any other idea why is she depressed?

Thank you!

[Samuraisan]

No idea.

[Mamyalynne]

I don't think guessing is going to get you far, if she won't talk to you then try to get her to speak to someone.

Would she go to the doctor?

[sclarity95]

I don't think so she would.

I will speak with her but i before it i would like to consider all possibilities.

[yogi-bear]

Wow.... Your guesses are a bit of a stab in the dark, aren't they?.....what makes you think she's cheated on her husband or the pregnancy theories?

In answer to your question, could be anything that's making her depressed.

Just advice to go and discuss with her GP any worries, is all you can offer, as a friend as she is reluctant to tell you.

[Smowball]

There doesn't have to be a reason for depression - it's an illness.

[wolf63]

There doesn't have to be a reason - Clinical Depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.

It may be that she does not think that anything is wrong with her.

[sclarity95]

I know my guesses are dark, but before this she told me everything.
The other thing i forgot to mention she told me she will never tell this to her husband.

[Prudie]

Agree with divebuddy, how can we guess?
I assume you mean she is unusually withdrawn and clearly worrying about something? That in itself doesn't make her 'depressed'

[sclarity95]

It's has to be a reason because it's happened in one day

[sclarity95]

She is usually a very vivacious person.

Sorry i know it's hard or impossible to guess.

What i would like to ask what is the usual things that can cause this. For any other person.

facts:
- something is happened because it happened very fast
- she don't want to tell it for her husband.
- it must be serious because she usually tell me eveything.
- its something with her, not family.

[MallyJ]

I really don't think you should be making wild guesses....if she wants you to know she will tell you...I would not think that a person making up stories in her head about why I was depressed would actually be a real friend..the next thing will be talking to others about these made up stories. If you are a real friend then you will be there to support her and wait for her to tell you...of course she may never want you to know...we are entitled to secrets.... stop this speculation..it does not seem to be the act of a friend to me.

[Tilly2]

What is it about your friend's behaviour that makes you think she's depressed?

[sclarity95]

She crying alone.
She has bad mood the whole week, she don't really want to do anything.
She told me about the thing but she hide it from everybody else, like nothing happened.

I'm a little bit angry for her, because she told me about that something is on, but left me in doubt.