Monogamy

[nailit]

Is it unnatural?
Is marriage unnatural?
Biologically speaking, men are designed by nature to spread their seed far and wide, while women are designed to get impregnated by the best genes possible at any one time.
There are obviously many people that are happy mating for life with one partner (although even then it may be after having multiple sexual partners) but the amount of people that get divorced/seperate/have affairs seems to suggest that the westernised idea of marriage between one man and one woman

[nailit]

is flawed.
(dont know why it submited b4 Id finished...)

[shoota]

You seem to have ended prematurely Nailit....

[Mamyalynne]

If you are looking at it from a purely clinical sense, as you don't mention love - then on that basis possibly it is unnatural.

[nailit]

//You seem to have ended prematurely Nailit.... //
Story of my life shoota ;-)

[nailit]

//If you are looking at it from a purely clinical sense, as you don't mention love - then on that basis possibly it is unnatural//
After 50 years on this earth, and having been in love several times, I cant help but come to the conclusion that love (in a romantic sense) is nothing more than oxytocin and natures way of getting us to sh*g and reproduce.

[Mamyalynne]

Thank you.

[Islay]

//After 50 years on this earth, and having been in love several times, I cant help but come to the conclusion that love (in a romantic sense) is nothing more than oxytocin and natures way of getting us to sh*g and reproduce. //

That's sad you feel that way

[woofgang]

well the counter argument is that in a species where offspring are most usually born singly and have a longish incubation followed by a longish maturation, the best chance of keeping the species going is for the young to be raised in a stable environment. Add to this the fact that the female is needed to stay close to the infant to feed and protect it and therefore there is a requirement for someone to provide food for the mother. Its not in the genetic interest of the food provider/protector to do this for a child that does not bear their genes, so there is a strong argument here for at least serial monogamy.

[nailit]

//That's sad you feel that way //
Why Islay? In some ways its actually quiet liberating.

[pastafreak]

Maybe you weren't actually in love.
Love is not just about romance...and shagging ( what an unromantic word!)....it's more mundane things like companionship,mutual support,liking the person you've committed yourself to. Maybe it's too easy now to end things if they are not "perfect".

[nailit]

woofgang, very good point. But at what age of the infants life should the couple then have to stay together?
Ive seen too many couple stay together 'for the sake of the children' but the children (once past 'baby' stage) have been harmed by their parent trying to conform to the norm of society and stay together.

[grasscarp]

Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogomy is much the same.

[Islay]

I have been with the same person since I was 17, its not about sex its about having each other to lean on, to rely on, to ignore in the evening, about being able to sit and not say a word but for that other person to know exactly what you are going to say before you say it.

[nailit]

//Maybe you weren't actually in love. //
Pasta, Im sure you didnt mean that to be offensive (so im not offended) but believe me, I have been in love with each of my long term partners (not just short term 'friends with benefits') and no, it hasnt been all about sh@gging or romance.

[nailit]

LOL Grasscarp...

[gness]

Evening, Nailit.....the ideal relationship would be between one woman and two men....
There would be three incomes going into one house.

We would need fewer houses built on our countryside.

Three people having one baby would cut down the over population of our world.......

Three parents could job share and not have to fork out for child care.....

If two went out there would be a babysitter at home always on hand.....

Out of two men one would surely be able to cook and one iron.....

I'm sure there's a flaw somewhere....but I'm not looking for it!....☺

[jno]

humans aren't the same as other animals. Many animals hop up onto their four feet and start walking as soon as they're born. Humans can't do this: because their brains are so much bigger, they are born earlier in their maturation process (if they waited any longer their heads wouldn't get out). So as woofgang says, they need parents around for many many years longer.

[nailit]

Islay,
Been there and done that,

[Islay]

yet you sound bitter and hardened

[nailit]

jno
/So as woofgang says, they need parents around for many many years longer. //
And I havnt said anything different.