What's wrong with me?

[Dakota]

For the last few weeks I just don't know what's been wrong with me.  One minute I'm fine and the next I'm crying for no apparent reason.  There *has* been things going on in my life that have bothered me, split from boyfriend, money issues, etc etc. but no more than anyone else.  Also, another thing is that I am suffering from insomnia too, I go to my bed and just can't sleep.  I've tried countless things to get me to sleep to no avail.  Most people in my life would never know there is anything wrong with me as I am hiding it well.  I don't want to face them telling me that I appear fine so what's up because I would honestly have to say "I have no idea", which sounds daft.

I would feel like such a plank going to the doctor and telling him I cry for no reason numerous times per day so I don't want to go down that route.

I feel very alone right now :(

[blueeyedlass]

dont you have a close friend who you can bend their ear and have a good bubble?? i feel exactly the same at the moment hon,and to be honest i dont really know what to say to you i just wanted you to know that i care xx and if you ever want a chat in froggers or anything gimme a shout , i know i can be rather sarky and stuff but thats only having a laugh , you can talk to me seriously honest !!! x

[andy hughes]

Hi Dakota

I'm so sorry to hear that you feel this way, because you have always been so kind to me in my needful times.

I have to tell you that you are suffering classic symptoms of depression. That's 'depression', not being 'depressed' which is a normal part of the human condition.

You must see your GP and explain all your symptoms - your doctor certainly won't laugh at you. A short course of anti-depressnant medication may well see you through this dificult time - don;t panic, they are not addictive, and modern scneince means they are very effective at treatment - they take two to three weeks to get into your system properly.

One of the worst aspects of this condition is that you can look - and appear - perfectly OK - indeed one of the symptoms is a strong desire to ensure that you are not suddering, which can isoltae you at the very time you need support.

BEL is right, you need support from people close to you - try and confide in someone close if you can.

You will get your personality back, this is temporary, and you will get past it. If yo u need someone, please let me add my offer to BEL's - let me know you are going to post your e-mail on Frogger's, and I'll contact you.

Half the problem is realising that you are nothing like as isolated as you feel - it is frightening, but it can be dealt with successfully, with the rhgith help. See your GP, be honest, and keep us in touch with how you go on.

Thinking of you,

A xx 

[lindapinda]

Hi dak! Sorry to hear you're feeling like this. You're in a bit of a vicious circle now too,can't sleep because of how you feel,and then not sleeping makes it all 10 times worse too. Don't be embarrassed to go to your doctor,I had to do that,cos of being in such a stressed state once. I did break down in front of her,but doctors are used to that,and she was really helpful and kind. We all go through these dark times I think,but talking to friends or a counsellor,can be really helpful.There are always people who care about you.Don't be afraid or embarassed to give them a chance to help. Will be thinking about you ,cheers Dak xxx

[larakitten]

Dakota,

Just wanted to say that Blueeyedlass is spot on, a good friend can be like a small miracle when feeling like this.  Im feeling the same right now, have lots of issues going on in my life, and if it wasnt for my best pal and my mum, Id be cracking up.

Dont feel daft going to your GP, thats what they're there for!

Hope you can start to feel better soon

x

[loopey]

its more common than people admit to, feeling down like this,but with the presures on us today its no surprising some of us need that extra help from a doctor to get over these annoying little blips in our lives but trust me they dont last and soon you'll be back to yourself, docs are really used to these things, maybe if you could just get a good nights sleep you'd feel a lot better,viscious circle really, come on here and we'll try and bore you silly so you doze off! take care your not alone.

[whiffey]

For the moment you feel awful, but there will come a time when you won't, that is what is so hard to see now. Try St.John's Wort, it helps, and know that you will come through it.

[Andy008]

Stress.

[simsfreq]

Hey hun,
I think the best thing would be to see your doctor and see if they can refer you to a counsellor. It really sounds like you just feel stuck and sort of lost, a lot of people go through this and it's nothing to be ashamed of. You'd be surprised at how many of your friends at a time when you thought they were fine were having similar thoughts to yours now.
Seriously though, counselling would be very useful. I see a counsellor regularly and although I am going through a down sort of patch at the moment it is useful to see her even when I am feeling fine as it is always a build up that leads to this kind of mood.
Just don't be afraid to cry for help, and remember that you are never alone, there is always someone else in the world who is feeling exactly the same as you. xx

[Hmmmmmmm]

Dakota - don't belittle what's happening to you. Your problems may or may not be 'no more than anyone elses' but they are real and important to you. I won't replicate the good advice given by others, but do be gentle with yourself. Treat your mind and body kindly. Like others I've been there, and there is a brighter future.

[sod_the_m25]

Dakota, friends will kick in and help. Stay with it, it feels like sh!te now, but you will get through it.

[ELVIS68]

Dakota,after the bo11ocking you gave me yesterday, my first thought was that you were a moaning old cow,however after our little chat last night It became clear that you are not a moaning old cow but a kind and caring person who is not afraid to speak your mind.It has shocked me to read this tonight because you come across as a very happy go lucky type of girl.I really hope you can get to the bottom of this problem very quickly. Im sure you have many friends in the real world who can help you as well as on here. so keep smiling, keep bo11ocking me because we all love you. xxxxxxx

[mimififi]

Hi Dak, I'm so sorry you feel so sad.  You poor thing.  I just wanted to say that what everyone has said is spot on, but two other thoughts came to my mind also.  The first one was, are you sure you are not pregnant?  I feel like this for the entire first 16 weeks of pregnancy, and then it just disappears.  It could be hormonal.  The other thing was, are you on the pill or any other hormonal meds as this can increase you risk of depression and cause other problems, particularly insomnia.

My only other thought (though I may be misremembering) was, I think you posted recently about your body piercing that wasn't healing well??? if that was you, maybe you are just really really run down.  When our bodies are fighting everything, even a very low grade, but long term infection, we get so tired and worn out that even the tiniest of pressures seem insummountable.  It is well worth you going for a full medical to rule out any physical problems.  Go for a well woman check too and (if you use them) have your pill/IUD checked up on.  If you are feeling down, and are not sleeping and not healing quickly, it could be physiological.

Let me know how you go.  Will be thinking of you

Mimi

XX

[jacko50]

dakota i am really sorry you feel the way you do ,i know you don't know me like your many friends at cb but i wanted to add my support ,i felt the same as you a couple of years ago ,i would cry even at adverts on the tv .i went to the doctors and he was great he gave my a short course of sleeping tablets so that i could get some decent sleep and he gave me anti depresants ,i had to take the anti ds's for about eight months then you cut down on them till you have half a day for a week then you stop them altogether ,the doctor does advise you though you don't have to do it on your own thats what he is there for . i have been off them for a eighteen months now and am fine .hopefully you can sort out your money and boyfriend worries out in time ,and you will have a fresh start.i know it looks bleak now but please believe me it will get better if you let it.very sincerely  . jacko 

[JoAnnMul]

Dak sorry its late but do go & see your doc... I felt like you, but believed I could shake it off.. Big mistake as it nearly sent me over the edge... I was on the depo injection at the time btw but had to stop having as the doc wasn't sure if that was to blame...As whiffey said St.johnswort is meant to be good, but cant be taken with certain medicines, the pill being one of them. when I was bad my friends said they hadn't realised..but my best friend said she knew something was wrong...!! so please go see the doc & good luck girl XX

[Lore]

Hiya Daks, I too have been there - mine was just over two years ago, the relationship I was in made me very unhappy, although there were several other problems in my life too.
I was always the listener in my circle of friends and always carried the weight of their problems for them, which left me on my own when I needed to talk. I couldn't fill their emotions with my probems when they all had their own so I just kept listening, advising and struggling in silence. When I left my husband no one knew how I managed to get through it, they didn't have a clue what Id been going through.

The top and bottom of it is... There's something inside all of us that helps us deal with life problems, I found spending a lot of time on my own helped a great deal, taking the time to do things that were important to me such as, visiting museums, art galleries, reading more poetry even going shopping - it gave me time to reflect on my life and see exactly what made me unhappy and what I could do to change it.
Emotions may well run high at times but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, there will be someone you will bond with ( doesn't have to be a romantic connection) and although you may never speak of your previous problems just the connection you have with them makes you forget how bad things were.
Good luck hunny, although I'm not in froggers I'm happy to get my e-mail addy to you if you want to talk further. x

[cat woman]

Hi Dokota, I am sorry to learn that you are having a rough ride at the moment,  I felt like this last year, I felt as if I had one massive P.M.T. all the time, I couldn't sleep and lost my appitite.  There was some issues going off in my life at the time and I thought I was handling them quite well!......  I was in a job with long hour with a 30 mile round trip to get there each day, I was having extensive dental treatment, my mother was in and out fo hospital, the crunch came was when my husband got pneumonia and I caught it and I crashed, I went to the doctor and just sat there crying and told him about what had been going off.  He gave me anti-depressents which I'm still on, I'm feeling alot better and will be having the dosage reduced soon, I have a different job now something completely different in what I have ever done and I am very happy with it, my mam will never get any better in her health so I live with her condition on a day too day basis.

I hope that all the posts have given you some comfort and never be afraid to go and see your doctor, you wont be the first to see him about how you are feeling and you wont be the last.  Take Dokota, God Bless.  xxx   :-)

[Dakota]

Thank you so much for your advise and your support.  I'm rather overwhelmed by you all and am trying to compose myself (again!) enough to write this reply.  I have many friends and a handful I consider my closest that I could turn to, but I am my own worst enemy as I have never been one for showing any sign of weakness, I honestly believe that nobody would want to listen to me drone on about my problems and like I said, I don't know what my problems *are* to talk through in the first place.  This is the first time in my life I have acknowledges to other people that I have a problem, and I think it was made easier due to the fact that it is online.  If I go to the doctor I would not know what to say as typicaly me would just clam up and "pretend" that there is nothing wrong, he's going to think me an idiot and wasting his time.  I guess most aspects of my life just get me down, my ex-husband said some nasty things to me, I took a couple of years to disbelieve any of it, I got back out there and fell in love with a guy, I thought he loved me too but I was wrong and as a result my heart has turned to ice and I absolutely will not consider the possibility of looking for another partner.  I have no enthusiasm for my job, it's a good job but I'm bored out of my head with it.  I am struggling financially to the point that I can rarely afford a decent meal (mostly living on cereal and coffee) and now when the opportunity of a good meal is there, I can barely get through half of it - my health has suffered big time.  There is one or two other things I won't bore you all with, it's all such trivial stuff but the point I'm trying to make is that no doctor or pills is going to change any of this, or does it?  Lore and Andy, you are most welcome to e-mail me, Andy you can pick up my address in Froggers.  Thank you all for your kindness, I never realised how much you all actually cared for me, I really am overwhelmed xxx

[mycatis]

I can't really add much to what everyone else has said hon. It really does sound like depression, I've suffered from this since I was 14, been on medication on and off for years.  I know you fel alone and maybe we only know each other through AB but I like and care about you, as do loads of other people on here. If you need to "unload" then feel free, don't feel like you always have to up-beat or funny (though you usually come across that way :-)  ) We'll be here for you sweetheart, don't worry, you can get help and this will pass x x x x

[joko]

These herbal remedies may help -

for stress and misery -

5HTP - �13-15

Connect - by Higher Nature - �12-14 (this contains some 5HTP among other active ingredients)

Kalms - about �2-3

Rescue Remedy - about �3-4

all from health food stores, and the last two from chemists as well.

the last two are good immediate and temporary solutions and good to have on you at any time, the other two are to be taken more long term and regularly

For insomnia - Phenergan, kalms, natrasleep.


type all these into a search engine to find all details and any contra-indications.

hope these help. I find they do.