'fat Vs Thin'

[EcclesCake]

There has always been much fat shaming in the gutter press and on here to some extent but little thought is given to consider those who are skinny.

Not all 'skinny' people are that way by choice. Some describe themselves as scrawny and have similar body issues to the larger folk around them.

I really don't quite understand why fat shaming is considered OK by some, yet slimmer folk are complimented on their lithe bodies just because they can hide behind their clothes and disguise their issues.

It strikes me as terribly unfair and does not take into consideration why an individual has one body shape and someone else another. The reasons are many and varied.

Thoughts anyone?

[Jahulaye]

As someone whose been to both dark ends of the weight scale and who fought, and is still fighting instead of giving up and blaming the world Thank you I'm blushing and flattered.

[RATTER15]

It was only the other evening, I was in a pub with a rather large friend, I said "your round"
He replied, "so are you, you fat barstard"

[Traci66]

I have always been very slim, I work in an office where quite a few are over weight. I never comment on their weight, yet everyone of them think it's fine to comment on mine. I get quite self conscious about it, but they seem to think they're not doing any harm because I am thinking. That hurts.

[Traci66]

Thin, not thinking.

[woofgang]

Traci I think that's because they think its socially acceptable which, of course its not.... as I have said before a personal comment is never good manners unless its an appropriate compliment.

[sherrardk]

I'm scrawny (I don't eat a lot and I do eat lots of rubbish too) and it does get commented upon - sometimes with concern but usually in an envious way, I wouldn't dream of commenting on someone's size.

[Islay]

Its a height of bad manners to comment on peoples appearance but that does not appear to stop some.

[Jahulaye]

We shouldn't comment on thinks that individuals cannot do a thing to change/nor should change.

Colour

Age

Social standing

Disability

Mental illness

But weight we can do something about it, so why not comment in a positive way to help or advise?

[Islay]

Because more often or not its not positive!
Or do you think the person that spat on me was trying to give me a pep talk?

[Jahulaye]

No spitting on someone is a metaphoric way of abuse meaning you're the lowest of the low and I despise every atom of your living

[NoMercy]

Someone asked me the other day when my baby was due.

Well... I've never been so insulted in my life...

[pastafreak]

"Jahulaye, why is it obvious that a slim person has a high metabolism?

"Because if that person was going round for round on large dish sizes there would be two overweight people at the table and not one."

So why is it acceptable to say or assume a person is skinny due to metabolism or some other issue related to how the body works...
....but it's ok to blame personality or character if a person is large. ie...no self control, greed,laziness...and on and on?

[mazie]

I always comment on people's appearance, even if I don't know the. Only ever in a positive way, I've been known to speak to folk wherever I am and comment o. How lovely they look. Things like a really nice scarf or bag etc. I once stopped on the way out of a little chef to speak to a single mum with 3 amazingly well behaved and polite children.I commented on how amazing they were, she seemed very happy. I can't really say I notice peoples weight. Life is far too short to be negative.I know I'm probably out of order but no one so far has seemed offended by positive comments.

[Islay]

It has been said on here a couple of times that a thin person eating a huge amount is ok but a fat person is greedy!
Does no one see what is wrong with that?

[ummmm]

Appetites vary day to day. Some days I eat loads other days not so much so the restaurant analogy doesn't really stand up.

[EcclesCake]

I ea what I can when I can, sometimes lots and sometimes little.

Quite why a pregnant woman would be offended by asking about her due date is beyond me unless they weren't pregnant.

Try not being pregnant but carrying all up front due to illness and going through such comments, humiliating, shameful and embarrassing don't even begin to start the train of thought...

[RATTER15]

I am greedy, I eat loads and I am a little overweight. I eat what I want when I want and as much as I want, I wont be worrying about my weight any time soon.

I am 60 in a couple of months and one day I may have to reconsider. I just think weight loss dieting is a slippery slope to getting bigger and bigger!!

[NoMercy]

It was a flipping joke, Eccles.

Grow up!

[Voltage]

Wether your fat or skinny
Or tall and small
What's it got to do with anyone else .
Whoever makes these comments wants to try looking at themselves!!
Cos I bet you ain't perfect!

[ummmm]

I actually asked that question before. I was mortified when she said she wasn't pregnant, just fat.

A lesson learnt.