Lonneliness

[fraser]

Heard about the over sixties about loneliness it also hit people younger even those working ,yes iam talking from my own experiences I don't want answers or sympathy just awareness it happens at at ages!!

[Mamyalynne]

Being lonely is no respecter of age as you say, can happen to anyone Fraser.x

[-SharonA-]

I remember a work colleague who was always the last to leave. On asking why, she lived alone in a bedside and was lonely. At the time she was in her early 20's.

[rowanwitch]

I know and it can happen even in a relationship, some of the loneliest times of my life were with the wrong person. All you can do is put yourself out in the world into positions where you can make friends. And be a friend to others.
My late husband always started conversations with strangers, he said I know what it is like to go days without talking to anyone, you don't know how much a few friendly words can mean. I talk to people more now too, easy to say something like has the 48 bus gone through, or to complement an older lady on the colour of her blouse . Just start I hope you don't mind this coming from a total stranger, but I noticed that lovely ...... Perhaps easier for another woman to do... admiring dogs is a good conversation starter too.

[waterboatman]

You're right rowan. Loneliness doesn't always mean isolation. As you say, with the wrong partner life can be very lonely indeed. Been there, done that.

[rowanwitch]

We have a lot in common I think... but it helps us understand people.

[waterboatman]

I agree rowan. It's a shame we don't live closer isn't it.

[rowanwitch]

Yes it is, but you are on my must go and meet list.

[waterboatman]

You'll be very welcome.

[Jackdaw33]

Some weeks the only person I get to speak to is my cleaner for two hours one day a week. I suppose I am lonely but don't really feel it as I have a phone and email. I live in sheltered accommodation so there are always others around but as most of them are mad, nosy, interfering old biddies I tend to keep my distance.

[rowanwitch]

I live in sheltered too, most of the old ladies are lovely the men are mostly strange or have drink problems, it's the younger ones who cause problems, especially those with noisy grandchildren

[Jackdaw33]

//the men are mostly strange or have drink problems\\

You don't live in my building, do you? We haven't met yet :)

[rowanwitch]

Why, I am in Birmingham where are you?
I suspect it is the same in sheltered housing everywhere though.

[Old_Geezer]

Of course it occurs st all ages.
I tend to be comfortable with my own company, but were I not then I'd join clubs/activities and find more friends. More difficult if age bring disability though, I realise.

[Jackdaw33]

No, I am the north-east coast. You're probably right about it being the same everywhere, though.

[rowanwitch]

Lovely coastline, lucky you

[Sqad]

No, I can't remember ever being lonely........I would hate it.
I have a younger wife,so that looks as though i am sorted.
She will be fine as she makes friends easily.
However, I agree, one can be lonely in a crowd.

[ummmm]

I've never felt lonely but I've never lived alone either.

[chanel5]

I remember many years ago, before I got married, one of my mother's friends said to me "You don't know what loneliness is until you get married". I scoffed, thinking she was eccentric at best and spiteful at worst. Now, forty years later, I have to acknowledge she was right. For many different reasons.

[10ClarionSt]

I don't mind being on my own. I go to lots of places on my own. It doesn't bother me at all.