How Important Is Is Sex?

[Scarlett]

If your other half / boyfriend / girlfriend / husband /wife became unable to have sex ever again, would you stay with them? If so, how difficult would it be for you?

[Sqad]

Mamy....quite.....depends upon to whom you ask the question I suppose.

[jackthehat]

sqad - You were the first (as usual) to mention it....

[anneasquith]

" thinks only with her lady garden" you call your sexual organs that ?. I think we have misunderstood each other K. My post were not meant to offend .

[Prudie]

With the greatest respect Kval most are aware of your current relationship and how much you are in love but 6 months ago (maybe) it was someone else. Not a slight at all , we have all been there. I agree with anne though, a 20 year old to not want a full sexual relationship ever again is nigh on impossible, At 20 I wouldn't have accepted it, now however I would, especially as the men's bit isn't absolutely necessary :-)

[david small]

Haven’t done the biz for at least five years. Pair bonding aside, 45 years married, and love her still lots. You get used to not getting any.

[Rockrose]

tbf lady garden is better by a long shot than ***!

[petal54]

we are still together,we both have med probs,active imagination helpful

[Sqad]

" Hello my darling, nice to have you home.....by the way there is this awful man on AB who is suggesting that many husbands/partners are unfaithful at one time or another. I am sure you haven't been."

" Of course not my love, how absurd."

[albaqwerty]

I occasionally miss that side of our relationship but the thought of having sex with anyone but my husband is not the slightest bit appealing.

I'm just too lazy to break another man in.

[Rockrose]

My husband is most likely to say something along of lines of - well I'm still breathing so its obvious that I have cheated!!
Please don't tar every male with the same view you have of sex.

[Sqad]

LOL...LOL..Rockrose....I am still trying to work out your post ^^^^

[AuntLydia]

All in all I think its an age thing. Me at 30 with a OH who couldn't do it..well I probably would discreetly look elsewhere but not leave the relationship. He would probably do the same. Now knocking on for 60 that aspect is less important and to be honest less available .

[Sqad]

Well, AB has answered.....sex is not that important.

[Rockrose]

Because if he had cheated - I would have killed him!

[kvalidir]

Well I thought 'lady garden' was by far the least offensive of quite a few possibles, although the term generally does make me snigger as well. No offence taken Anne but I do feel very strongly that people make generalisations about me because of my age, and that's irritating tbh.
I'm sure everyone means well in their notion that I have no idea what I'm talking about, six months ago it wasn't 'someone else'. Six months ago it was my lovely ex, who I had been with for nearly 3 years and with whom I'm still very close and always will be, but it was patently obvious that we were not 'in love'. I could have lived with him happily forever but when I met my current man I realised that we had something missing as a couple and whilst I don't think there is only one soulmate and all that malarkey, I do think sometimes you're lucky enough to meet the one who is just that bit different to all the rest and to throw that away just because of sex would be madness however old or young you are. x

[gness]

Haven't.....might have been better, RR!!... :-)

Sex isn't that important....making love is....if you consider both to be the same thing you're missing so much..... :-)

[Sqad]

gness.......go on, please go on....what have I missed?

[Purist]

Whilst I admire your views Kval, If you could no longer have a sexual relationship with your boyfriend and gave him permission to fulfil his needs elsewhere, what is stopping him from falling for one of these randoms? Sex can be a very emotional intimate act and he will be sharing that intimacy with another woman.

[Sqad]

Sorry, I have to leave this thread.......cricket has resumed.

[kvalidir]

Sqad, Recreational sex, bit on the side, one night stand call it what you like is something which results in fun and physical pleasure and that's about it. Nice but not as nice as it can be.

Making love has exactly the same as that except it has the added emotional aspect, a feeling of closeness and well being, a feeling of love, protection and intimacy, and it comes with a raft of desires like to get old together, to travel together, to have children, to build a home, to leave a mark and do something important together and to be safe in the knowledge that you have found someone you can share anything with. That's the difference and a whole lot of other things too. x