the menacing menopause?

[MangoPete]

My ex of many years isstarting acting irrationally refusing access to my boys despite a court order to the contrary.they are coming back with concerning stories and she has decided to change their school and is refusing to talk to me. Until four months ago we had a decent enough relationship , but it all seems to have gond crazy. One of the boys says she has started the menopause.

Supporting her will support the boys when they see her.
Does it makecan it make you a little crazy or could this be a reoccurrance of her depression,which will need treatment though i know they maybe linked.
any advice will be welcome
Thanks

[Chessman]

The thing is, has your ex found someone else?.

[Brinjal]

Sounds more like depression. Particularly if she has suffered from it before. 45 seems a little young to be going through menopause all tho it can happen early. Symptons vary but very irrational behaviour is not commonly one of them.. Menopause is a process not an illness. Sounds more like depression.

[MangoPete]

NO Chessman unfortunately not unable to keep a relationship.

Her mother went through the menopause early 40's.
Sheused to suffer terrible PMT.
Thanks Brinjal

[Buddy]

I am going through the menopause and seriously I could without a shadow of a doubt do serious harmful things due to PMT (not that I know when I am getting a period!) and I couldnt care less.I have advised my doctor about this just so he can note it.It is terrifying me and I just wish this most awful part of my life was over.This should be the most enjoyable part of my life - children up and doing well and still young enough for a lively life.Its not the same for everyone so please dont let my experience dictate what others will go through - its hereditary in my case.

Please be patient and try not to incite your ex with fundamentally petty issues at this difficult time for you all - because she will not percieve them as petty.

I just want support and a modicum of understanding and I suspect that is what she needs.

[Buddy]

Just read my post - I am not a physical danger per sae but I am a danger verbally and couldnt care less who I hurt.Just in case it seems I am a nutter but the feelings are extreme.Only clarifying

[MangoPete]

Thanks Buddy for you openness.
We men do need women like you to tell us how it can be.
I guess like childbirth each woman experiences it differently each time.
I hope your partner and children are able to understand what you have articulated so well to me.
Peter

[Buddy]

Thanks Pete for your comments and support.

I sometimes have to give my lot a wake-up call to remind them (usually when I have PMT) :)

All the best!