Unhappy Feeling

[sunny-dave]

I'm not a big one for introspection - but today I'm feeling decidedly maudlin.

Not for myself, but because I'm now exactly the same age that my Dad was when he died.

Comparing my happiness (and the future I hope to have in front of me) with his struggle with continual ill-health and then an early death has made me sad - he (and my Mum) must have felt cheated of the retirement they'd worked for.

I'll be fine tomorrow - but right now I'm stuck in a brown study ...

SDx

[sunny-dave]

I've done clinical depression - horrible it was too - and this isn't anything like that.

Just a wistful afternoon thinking about loss and "what ifs".

I shall now cook tea and get on with my happy life - but I don't regret the pause for thought.

[Theland]

Naomi - Oh dear! I was anticipating a barbed comment from you, and you don't disappoint.
So you think people expressing their worries and concerns are, "Making a fuss about it?"
You should reconsider your comments.

[wolf63]

Theland - this is a forum where you should be able to air your worries and concerns about life. If it helps people to cope then so be it. Keep on posting

I have been getting treatment for depression since 1996 and it is an uphill struggle.

But as Dave says - there is depression and then there is Depression.

[Mamyalynne]

Peter, once again you misinterpret me - I meant depression is very different to a sad thought.

[naomi24]

Hmmm.... no.

[naomi24]

^That to Theland.

[Peter Pedant]

well that makes that clear ....

[gness]

Sqad and Naomi, nobody on this thread seems obsessed with doom and gloom and Dave is certainly not wallowing.....we've had quite a productive day towards our life together. You both seem obsessed with sniping though.... :-)

He's just been thoughtful and a little sad for his dad, comparing him at our age with what we are looking forward to.....sometimes some of us share that on AB and others join in and chat....that's when the site is so nice.....

I tell you what though, Naomi.......if I was suffering from depression or even just a bit down I'd thank my lucky stars that you weren't a friend I was looking to for understanding or support.

[Peter Pedant]

//// depression is a different beast altogether//
er sorry depression has a measurable death rate//
Life has a 100% death rate.

erm yeah or no

death rate usually means number of death within a time interval
so asserting that everyone is dead after 150 y is perhaps not as useful (or clever) as it might initially seem.

people may not live thro depression and die from something else - they die directly from their disease (depression)

yes I agree John Maynard keynes first said - we are all dead in the long run ....

[Sqad]

gness....we, (naomi and i) are not just talking about this thread.......we are talking about AB as a whole over a period of a decade, but it is getting worse in my opinion.

The majority of people and on AB who have a bad day, never come onto AB to report their condition, they just get on with it.

[Mamyalynne]

Hope it's not fish fingers Gness, now that would be a downer ;-)

[Canary42]

I've already had 46 more years than my Dad had. But I need 21 more to catch up with my Mum.

[naomi24]

Gness, //I was suffering from depression or even just a bit down I'd thank my lucky stars that you weren't a friend I was looking to for understanding or support.//

And sqad and I are sniping?

[Peter Pedant]

// gness....we, (naomi and i) are not just talking about this thread....//

oh
yes and no
usually when I am on a thread - I talk about the thread.....
perhaps that is just me

[gness]

Sqad..this wasn't an...I'm down so I'll post about it.....Dave and I differ about this but we chatted about how he was feeling about his dad today and thought....wonder if others ever feel the same.....would be interesting to know..... I don't...many do.....so he posted and got interesting replies til you and Naomi rocked up with the wrong end of the stick....usual for Naomi.

Step back, Sqad and think......when does Dave come on here looking for sympathy? I know the site is getting fewer posts these days but do you and Naomi have to jump on folk just because you both haven't enough threads to join in? If folk aren't posting about how they feel it's probably replies like those from you and Naomi that are putting them off.

No, Mamya.....not a fish finger in sight.....something tasty with red wine going into it by the smell wafting through from the kitchen....bliss... :-)

[gness]

I'd answer you, Naomi but dinner's ready and with you always wanting the last word we could be here a long time....so post away....

Spot on, Peter......xx

[naomi24]

//....usual for Naomi. //

You're still sniping, gness. Just saying. x

[naomi24]

//you always wanting the last word we could be here a long time....so post away.... //

And again. x

[david small]

Elvis’s mother died at 42, he always feared he would too. He did.

[Calicogirl]

If you can catch my partner in a reflective mood he too has the feeling he'll die young, because his father did. I think it's a fair worry a lot of people have.The women in my family are very long lived (touch wood) so I don't think about it for myself but I do for him and it is an unhappy feeling you're right Dave. x