How To Live With Yourself After Something Unforgivable?

[Myra2020]

You forgive me if i shall not go into details.

Many years ago i did something.....Something i simply cannot forgive myself for, something that my evil side brought out of me and still to this day i feel it creeping back to me.

I have since dedicated my life to the services of others but i still cannot bring myself to....Live i think.

I don't know what i am expecting from writing this but i guess it just feels good to, to just say this.

[ummmm]

Is anyone else holding it against you?

We all make mistakes and do something stupid occasionally. You have the grace to have learnt from yours.

[Mozz71]

Everybody has a skeleton or two in their closet. I guess everyone deals with them in a different way. Just remember that you are not defined by one decision. You are the sum of all of them. Think of the good you have done. That wouldn't have happened without that one bad call.

[Old_Geezer]

Nothing is unforgivable, it's a state of mind. Forgiving oneself is often the hardest. But it's the way to go. Accept the past, including errors. Insist on wiping the slate clean and thus reset. Go forth and try to be the best person you can from here on.

[KARL]

If you are wrestling with something thoroughly illegal then trying to forget it may be harder, especially if you caused identifiable suffering. Only you know what it is and only you can deal with it.

If it was nothing illegal but involved interaction with or effects on someone else then and someone suffered and/or was hurt then perhaps you should consider tackling/confronting the individual(s) and the issue itself. Only you know what it is and only you can deal with it.

You need to weigh up whether your current discomfort is better than whatever consequences would result from bringing this into the open. I would always be inclined to hope for empathy from others, but then again that hope does not always look that hopeful (if you know what I mean). In your case it is weighing up discomfort/fear against the hope of getting rid of it no matter what follows. Presumably someone already knows or else someone might discover.

[KARL]

* one too many "then"