Film, Media & TV1 min ago
Maintaining composure
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Perhaps make an appointment with your boss and tell him or her that you have this problem but want to work on it, as career advancement is what you wish.
Maybe it would help if prior to such a meeting you could rehearse it with your boss in private. Go over the details and see where you might start having trouble.
A second thing you can do is rehearse presentations alone in front of the mirror or if possible, with a cam corder. Rehearse again and again, and try to come up with every situation you might encounter. Do it so many times that you are so well rehearsed that you could do it in your sleep. As you do it, imagine yourself in the real situation not tearing up, but being proper and strong.
If I were your boss and you came to me with this, I would want to help you through it rather than just let you muddle in it. I imagine your boss will help you.
Since you are aware of the problem and want it to change, I believe you will be able to conquer it.
A second thought, as I read again... think of these meetings as places where you can learn and grow. If your work is challenged, listen to what they say and make a comment like, that sounds like a great idea! I will try that next time! Thank you.
Nobody likes their performance challenged, but when it is, the best response is composure and acceptance of it if the challenge is valid. If it is not valid, you should of course be able to defend yourself.
Good coworkers and managers want good team work, and that will come from sharing ideas, including comments on performance.
Best of luck to you, supernick!
Thanks Rampart. You're right in that preparation is the key in most cases. I was the best man at a friends wedding and although the thought terrified me, I didn't want to pull out. I must have rehearsed that speech 20 times in front of the mirror, and was absolutely fine when it came to doing it.
In many ways I think this problem is a residue from my childhood when I was a very shy kid who didn't like talking to people I didn't know. Whilst that has all fallen away now, this seems to be one last stain that refuses to budge. My bosses will be well aware that this is a problem of mine, but I don't think that many people know how to deal with a 25 year old man who's voice is cracking with nerves. I'm so unhappy about the whole thing I've though about hypnotherapy. Perhaps rescue remedies would help?
If you cannot make the above work, I always find something about the meeting that amuses me tremendously. Puts me in a good mood and makes the whole thing seem insignificant.
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