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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I'm so sorry to hear that - did he work in the building industry? I believe this is often associated with asbestos.
It sounds as if you have two fears firstly in finding the courage to help him through his last days and enjoying those days together and secondly in facing the future without him.
I must admit I'd be totally devastated in your position.
Have you contacted macmillian? http://www.macmillan.org.uk/
They have a fabulous reputation for helping those with such conditions
I can barely begin to imagine how you must be feeling, and you have my every sympathy.
There are support groups for mesothelioma about. You can find some details here:
http://www.cancerhelp.org.uk/help/default.asp?page=4600
I hope this may be of some help.
I am soooo soryy to hear that.
The above answers are brilliant but can I also add by suggesting that both of you start to put together a memory book or box containing snippets of the life you have shared together? It will be good fun to take a trip down memory lane together and will be somewhat comforting to you when he has passed.
I am so sorry, sending you my love xxx
This must be so distressing for you, and although you want to offer your husband all your help and support, you mustn't neglect yourself in the process.
Lean on as many friends and family for support as you can. The traditional 'stiff upper lip' attitude leads to bottling things up, which is bad for you. Tell as many people close to you how you feel, and give yourself time to grieve and cry for your husband, both now and in the future.
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I am so sorry about your news but I can only echo the sentiments of all the other people who have answered you;take their advice especially regarding the Macmillan nurses who can do so much to help and support you.Please don't ever feel alone,you have taken the first step by posting on AB which is brave of you and there are plenty of people who will help you through what lies ahead. Hopefully you also have some good friends who will also help you.
Thinking of you.
So sorry for what you are going through. My husband died suddenly last year of a heart attack. He had been away and I saw him two days before. I never got a chance to tell him how much I loved him and to say goodbye.
Give your husband a million hugs and tell him you love him and I hope you manage to get through this difficult time.
Some of my friends have been a great support, others don't know what to say. I hope you have a good family and network of friends to see you through it. xxx